Then Prince Harry asked Markle if she knew how to curtsy. “I thought, genuinely, that was what happened outside. I thought that was part of the fanfare,” Markle said. “I didn’t know that’s what happens inside.” “But it’s your grandmother,” Markle said, to which Prince Harry said, “It’s the queen.”
Later in the interview, Meghan said of the Queen: “She’s always been warm and inviting and really welcoming,” and revealed that she received a beautiful set of pearl earrings and a matching necklace from Harry’s grandmother.
Meghan and Harry had a secret wedding ceremony.
“Three days before our wedding, we got married,” Markle revealed. “Nobody knows that.” She and Harry called the Archbishop of Canterbury and told him that the royal wedding was a “spectacle” for the world—and they wanted an authentic ceremony with just the two of them in their backyard.
No, Meghan did not make Kate Middleton cry—it was the opposite.
The rumor that she made Kate Middleton cry was a “turning point,” Markle says. “The narrative with Kate, which didn’t happen, was really, really difficult. I think that’s when everything changed, really.” Markle never made Middleton cry. “The reverse happened,” Markle said. “I say that not to be disparaging to anyone because it was a really hard week [of the 2018 wedding], and she was upset about something. She owned it and she apologized, and she brought me flowers and a note apologizing. She did what I would do if I knew I hurt someone. To just take accountability for it … I would’ve never wanted that to come out about her,” Markle continued. “Ever. Even thought it had happened. I protected that from ever being out in the world.”
Markle says a few days before the wedding, Middleton was upset about flower girl dresses, and it made Markle. “It really hurt my feelings,” Markle said. “I thought in the context of everything that was going on in those days leading to the wedding that it didn’t make sense to not just be doing what everyone else was doing, which was being supportive knowing what was going on with my dad and whatnot.”
Markle says she’s forgiven Middleton and has moved on, but “What was hard to get over was being blamed for something that not only I didn’t do, but that happened to me. And the people who were a part of our wedding going to our comms team and saying, ‘I know this didn’t happen.’”
On the conversation about Meghan being “different”:
“Well, I thought about it because they made me think about it,” she says of the media coverage. Now, upon reflection, she’s happy all of those things were true. “Thank God I had those life experiences…I’ve always worked, I’ve always valued independence. I’ve always advocated for women’s rights.” The sad irony, she added, is that she’s always advocated for women but spent the last four years being silenced.
There were conversations about the skin color of Meghan and Harry’s firstborn.
“In those months when I was pregnant…[there were] concerns and conversations about how dark his skin might be when he was born,” Meghan said to Oprah’s visible shock. When asked who were having those conversations, she declined to reveal saying, “I think that would be very damaging to them.”
Toward the end of the interview, Oprah asked Harry to elaborate on the verbiage used. “That conversation, I’m never going to share. But the timing was awkward; I was a bit shocked.”He added it “was right at the beginning, when [Meghan] wasn’t going to get security, when members of my family were suggesting that she carries on acting because there’s not enough money to pay for her. There were some real obvious signs before we got married that this was going to be really hard.”
Archie wasn’t ever going to be a prince—or receive security.
Markle says the palace didn’t want to make Archie a prince. “He wasn’t going receive security; this went on for the last few months of our pregnancy, where I’m going, ‘Hold on a second.’” Markle said.“He needs to be safe,” Markle remembers thinking when the palace made this decision. Winfrey asked Markle how she was told Archie wasn’t going to be a prince. “There’s no explanation,” she said. “It was decision they felt was appropriate.” On whether Archie being called a prince was important to her, Markle said, “If it meant he was going to be safe, then of course. All the grandeur surrounding this stuff is an attachment I don’t personally have.”
Markle reveals she considered suicide.
Meghan says the media scrutiny got so bad that she wasn’t okay. “I was really ashamed to say it at the time and ashamed to have to admit it to Harry, especially because I know how much loss he’s suffered. But I knew that if I didn’t say it, that I would do it,” she says of self-harm. “I just didn’t want to be alive anymore, and that was a very clear and real and frightening constant thought.”