Between the plus-ones on party invitations and being inundated with stories about gift ideas for couples, being single during the holidays can feel less than ideal. That is, until you realize how truly special it is to spend this time of year doing exactly what you want, on your own terms. Here are 9 great ways to savor your single life this holiday season and remind yourself that being tied down can be highly overrated. Your paired-up friends may even start to feel like the ones missing out.
1. Send cards that celebrate single life.
Match.com and Etsy teamed up to create these genius holiday e-cards specifically for singles that you can download and share. If you want to go the snail-mail route, there are paper versions available too.
Serve a holiday meal at a soup kitchen, spend time at an animal shelter, or do whatever you enjoy to make someone else’s season better. We’ve compiled a bunch of places you can donate funds—or time—this holiday season.
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4. Take a solo trip.
If you can swing it financially, it’s worth thinking about doing some traveling by yourself. No need to plan a giant excursion, but exploring a new city can have its rewards, even if it’s just for a night or two. Not only will this push you ut of your comfort zone—a worthy resolution—but you can also decide where to go entirely on your own.
5. Organize your space.
Spring’s not the only time to clear out your place and purge all the stuff that’s been taking up valuable real estate at home all year. Put on some some music, a juicy podcast, or some Sex and the City reruns, and use your precious alone time to clean out your closet, your medicine cabinets, your kitchen drawers, your fridge, and else whatever needs purging. There’s nothing better than starting the new year feeling organized and less cluttered (replacing all your mismatched hangers with these space-saving velvet slimlines in a uniform color is a great place to start), and you can probably do some good by donating the clothing, coats, and shoes you don’t want to a local charity, or listing them on cool apps like Poshmark, The RealReal or ThreadUP so you can make a few extra bucks.
6. Have a spa night.
Stay home one night and treat yourself to a DIY facial, a glitter manicure, a hot bath, a foot scrub, or a “calming” cannibis mask. Or, just treat yourself to some new beauty products people are loving, like this towel that protects hair color, this face-changing $21 brow pencil, one of the most popular mascaras at Sephora or a face cream you can completely design yourself. After a year like this, you obviously deserve it.
7. Throw a holiday party and buy something great to wear.
Surround yourself with friends, food, and cocktails and treat yourself to something new to wear.
8. Watch all the holiday movies—even the bad ones.
So what if Love Actually or Four Christmases literally air three times each this week? Being single means watching it unapologetically each time. If you’re not so into holiday fare, take advantage of the slow time of year to catch up on all the Netflix movies and shows you’ve been meaning to binge. Especially the ones disappearing this month.
9. Hand-make presents for your friends and family—or for yourself.
Illustrate your own cards, bake—we’re partial to mini breads or cakes packaged in these brightly-colored paper liners—or get creative and take up sewing or jewelry making. Your loved ones will appreciate the extra effort that went into their gifts, and you’ll have found a new outlet for all your brilliant thoughts.