Her responses were refreshingly candid and painted a picture of how difficult it is to date in the public eye.
“If I can be honest, it is so cliché, it’s just, everyone dates everyone,” Gomez said. “It always seems to be within a little bubble, and it’s because it’s safe, right? You’re wanting someone to understand what you’re going through.”
“You’re almost wanting a counterpart of creativity as well, and it’s interesting and fun,” she added.
Unfortunately, things often get complicated when two A-listers are involved; Gomez said the issue lies in the fact that oftentimes you end up “having a relationship for people, and not even for yourself.”
“There’s almost this point where it’s like, ‘Oh, we’re making it known that we’re together.’ Whatever it is. It’s like, you just need to decide within our world if it’s for you, or is it for show?” she explained.
In her interview, Gomez also opened up about the inspiration behind her new music. Many of her new songs are widely believed to be about the heartbreak she felt from that 10-year on-again-off-again relationship with Bieber—especially the track “Lose You to Love Me”—even though she’s never explicitly confirmed any of them are about him.
Instead, she’s always spoken generally about her love life, making sure not to throw any of her exes under the bus.
“It’s not because I wanted any sort of spotlight on [my dating] situation,” Gomez told Lowe. “If anything, I’m wanting the spotlight completely separated, but it wasn’t in a vindictive way. It was simply like, ‘Okay, I actually have my part to say,’ and I waited.”
“I wasn’t just irrationally doing something to just be coming from a place of, ‘Well, I’m over it.’ That’s not where I was,” she continued. “When it all came together, it just felt right, and I was okay with that. Other than the fact that they pay attention a bit more to my personal life than maybe others, it’s going to be gone in a day. There’s going to be another story. There’s going to be something else. So people will ultimately know, yes, where the inspiration came from, but then it kind of ends there.”
You can watch Gomez’s full interview with Zane Lowe below: