Lady Gaga and her boyfriend of almost two years, talent agent Christian Carino, are officially engaged. The A Star Is Born actress confirmed the news at Elle‘s Women in Hollywood in Los Angeles Monday night (October 15) when she referred to Carino as her “fiancé” during a speech.
Gaga touched on other things during her speech, too, like why she chose to wear an oversize men’s suit to the Elle event as opposed to one of the several dresses she tried on. “This was an oversized men’s suit made for a woman. Not a gown. And then I began to cry. In this suit, I felt like me today. In this suit, I felt the truth of who I am well up in my gut. And then wondering what I wanted to say tonight become very clear to me,” she said. “As a sexual assault survivor by someone in the entertainment industry, as a woman who is still not brave enough to say his name, as a woman who lives with chronic pain, as a woman who was conditioned at a very young age to listen to what men told me to do, I decided today I wanted to take the power back. Today, I wear the pants.”
The pop singer expanded on her experiences with sexual assault, telling the audience, “After I was assaulted when I was 19, I changed forever. Part of me shut down for many years. I didn’t tell anyone. I avoided it myself. And felt shame. Even still today standing in front of you, I feel shame for what happened to me. I still have days where I feel like it was my fault. After I shared what happened to me with very powerful men in this industry, nobody helped me. No one offered me guidance or a helping hand to lead me to a place where I felt justice, they didn’t even point me in the direction of the mental health assistance I was in dire need of. Those men hid because they were afraid of losing their power. And because they hid, I began to hide.”
She ended on an inspiring note: “Let’s lift our voices. I know we are, but let’s get louder. And not just as women, but as humans,” she said. “And see that there are great men in the world. And ask them to hold our hands. For justice. That our voices be heard. Whatever our story may be. For an equal standing. We will fight for justice for women and men and those with other sexual identities. For me, this is what it means to be a woman in Hollywood. It means I have a platform. I have a chance to make a change. I pray we listen and believe and pay closer attention to those around us to those in need. Be a helping hand. Be a force for change.”