Sophie Turner and Maisie Williams’ Greatest Friendship Moments

In the world of celebrity friendships, there’s one duo who rises above the rest: Sophie Turner and Maisie Williams. The actresses met on the set of Game of Thrones, where they play sisters Sansa and Arya, and they’re basically sisters off-screen too. You hear all the time about co-stars becoming chummy with one another, but what Turner and Williams have is more than that: It’s a real, deep-rooted friendship—the kind of bond Jennifer Aniston and Courteney Cox forged while working together on Friends.

The Internet can’t get enough of Williams and Turner’s obsession with each other, and I understand. It’s one of the only pure things we have left in this world. I mean, Game of Thrones is about to end. What else do we have to live for besides Turner and Williams tweeting cute things back and forth? This it it. It’s all we get.

So let’s relish in it, shall we? Here are Maisie Williams and Sophie Turner’s greatest friendship moments. We’re sure there will be plenty more to come.

When Turner revealed her and Williams’ self-care routine on the GoT set. “The past few seasons Maisie and I have sleepovers every night when we’re shooting,” Turner said at New York Comic-Con last year. “Or every night whenever both of us are in town. We just used to sit there and eat and watch stupid videos and smoke weed. I don’t know if my publicist will kill me for saying this. We’d get high and then we’d sit in the bath together and we’d rub makeup brushes on our faces. It’s fun.”

The time a photo agency accidentally called Williams “Maisie Turner.” She and Sophie made jokes about marrying each other, of course.

When Turner called Williams her “soulmate” on Instagram. No lies detected.

The fact Williams is going to be a bridesmaid in Turner’s wedding to Joe Jonas. “I already got it,” Williams told the Radio Times in January 2018, referring to the bridesmaid gig. “[The wedding] is very, very exciting. It’s kind of bizarre, though.” I cannot wait to see the Instagrams for that bachelorette party.

On that note: Williams’ super-sweet message to Turner about her engagement. “Congratulations to my beautiful girlfriend on her engagement 💍 This is just one of MANY life milestones we’ll share. Love you both,” she posted in October 2017.

When Williams put out a request in January 2017 for old photos of herself and Turner. This is literally me laughing at photos from high school with my best friend.

Their “Carpool Karaoke” segment. I still can’t get over them surprising fans at a GoT exhibit.

Turner fixing Williams’ dress at the 2017 Golden Globes. This is the glossy Hollywood version of your friend telling you there’s a stain on your shirt.

Their face-swap from 2016. Remember when face-swapping was a thing?

Williams’ tribute to Turner on her 21st birthday. The 2017 tweet featured an incredible throwback photo, of course.

Their matching Game of Thrones tattoos. They had the day they booked GoT inked on their arms.

All the cute names they call each other on Instagram. “Bae,” “soulmate,” “sister”—they’ve used all these words to describe each other. I’m not crying, you’re crying.

Their couple nickname. “Mophie.” They’ve hashtagged it several times.

When they wore matching costumes on Halloween 2016. They went as weed-happy girl scouts, a.k.a “hash brownies.” All other couples costumes are canceled.

And they low-key matched for Kit Harington’s wedding. I really hope this was coordinated.

It’s Finally Happening: Everlane Is Releasing a Sneaker

Whenever Everlane introduces a new shoe style, its fans—which include celebrities like Meghan Markle and Angelina Jolie—are ready. They’ll join waitlists that will already be thousands deep to score a pair of the brand’s minimal, ethically-made styles. So far, Everlane’s footwear selection has focused on those sophisticated, season-less silhouettes people don’t swap out every season—the loafer, the boot, the low block heel. One major shoe that went unrepresented, though? The sneaker.

“We’ve known all along that, in many ways, sneakers are the future of footwear,” Alison Melville, Everlane’s general manager of footwear and accessories, tells Glamour. “As apparel and culture [become more casual], footwear is going right along with it. It was less that we were resisting [adding a sneaker] and more that we wanted to take our time and do it right.”

A big concern for the Everlane team was, in a time when everyone has their version of an everyday sneaker, creating something that stood out in the market and could still live in a closet for years. “Striking a balance between those two things is a really big challenge,” she says. “That’s why it took us more than two years.”

The goal was to design something that “had broad appeal across gender, across ages, across all sorts of demographics, while also being recognizable and distinctive.” The result—which is being announced today, and released on April 25—is a unisex style called the Trainer. It’ll be available in seven different colors and retails for $98. Aesthetically, it reads like a cooler interpretation of the inescapable “dad sneaker” trend. And though there’s no explicit branding on it, there’s one Everlane hallmark woven into the design: a triangle quarter panel at the top of the shoe.

“We designed it with the recognition that it’s not an athletic shoe,” explains Melville. “Most people wear sneakers for nonathletic reasons, and we wanted to design a sneaker that had that truly versatile end use in mind. We want to produce timeless classics that are basic and that last you a long time, from both a quality and a trend perspective. They’re not splash-in-the-pan fashion items. What we’ve learned across [footwear]—whether it’s the Day Glove or the Day Heel or the Day Boot—is that when you can drill down to the essentialness of a product and deliver on it, you’ll find detailing that sets it apart.”

There was also the environmental impact to consider. As a company, Everlane is committed to reducing waste and to increase transparency in the fashion industry. (Last year, it pledged to remove all virgin plastic from its supply chain by 2021.) When it came time to build something that has as many components as a sneaker, the brand wanted to ensure everything from the sole to the laces was aligned with that mission—and also continue educating customers.

That’s why Everlane’s doing this launch a little differently: Instead of simply adding the Trainer to its existing footwear section, it’s creating a brand-new label, Tread by Everlane. “We wanted to make sure that the sneaker had its own brand platform where we could talk about message to reducing the burden of plastic,” says Melville. They’ll also continue talking about carbon offsetting, and reducing water usage. “Those conversations are quite nuanced, in terms of sustainability,” she adds. The new label will “make sure that we have the platform to tell the whole story.”

With Tread by Everlane, the brand is hoping to work toward creating “the world’s lowest-impact sneakers.” Melville is tight-lipped about what other styles might be coming, but assures that the team is “focused on the Trainer for the foreseeable future.”

Ahead, shop Everlane‘s long-anticipated foray into sneakers.

Chrissy Teigen Has Some Words for Fox News’ Laura Ingraham for Criticizing Her Time 100 Inclusion

Chrissy Teigen was recently named one of the 100 Most Influential People of 2019 by Time magazine—a big honor for our former Woman of the Year.

Famed chef Eric Ripert wrote the tribute for the list, talking about his and Teigen’s shared love of food, her wicked sense of humor, and what a good cook she is. But he also touches on what her fans really love about her: her authenticity. “She may be a top model, but all her life, Chrissy Teigen has liked to eat,” Ripert writes. “She’s not shy about that—or anything else, really. She’s very opinionated, and I love her for it. But what I love most about Chrissy is that she’s very much herself. She may be glamorous and an icon in elegance, but she’s extremely approachable and warm. And above all, she’s a very proud mother and a tremendously supportive wife. I admire her so much.”

One person who disagrees with this sentiment is Fox News host Laura Ingraham, who criticized the inclusion of Teigen on her show, The Ingraham Angle. Ingraham calls out Teigen’s criticisms of Trump and says that Teigen was chosen by Time because she likes to eat. She concludes with a clip of Teigen saying she thinks women should say “fuck you” more often and asks, “But did most Americans like her take on female empowerment at last week’s Democratic retreat?”

Take a look:

Teigen, of course, had some thoughts on this. “Corny monster. There were 1 million other ways to try and take me down and this is what you choose? Fuck you. 😁,” she tweeted. “When time comes out with their 100 most influential white supremacists list, I promise I won’t question your worthiness, @IngrahamAngle”

This being the Internet, not everyone was a fan of Teigen’s clapback. “What an idiot,” one user commented on her tweet. “You lose the argument is baselessly accusing a person of racism. If Laura Ingraham is a white supremacist she is sure doing a terrible job at it. Last I checked a racist wouldn’t adopt and welcome kids from Guatemala into their home.” (Ingraham has an adopted daughter from Guatemala.)

But the large majority of replies were in support of Teigen. “Drag her through your hot sauce queen,” one Twitter user wrote. “If you’re being [taken] down by Fox News you know it’s cause you’re doing something right! Keep it up,” another added.

“Our lives would be so much easier if we didn’t dabble in politics at all,” Teigen said in her Woman of the Year profile for Glamour, “but I don’t want that kind of life. For us, we are willing to take that risk, because we believe in it so passionately.”

Watch Kim Kardashian Explain How Her Mysterious Sinks Work

Update 4/18/19:

At last, one of 2019’s great mysteries has been solved—and Kris Jenner didn’t even have to involve the FBI. Yes, we now have definitive proof about how the sinks work at the Kardashian-West house after Kim Kardashian gave her followers a quick tour on Instagram. “OK since everyone is a little bit confused about our sinks, I thought I would just show you guys a little tour of our bathroom,” she says in one of the videos from her gigantic bathroom.

She further explains that the sinks—which were designed by Kanye West and their architect and interior designer—went through eight prototype version before landing on what we see. They are slightly concave so the water does go down a small opening that serves as the drain. “There’s a slit for the water, and it goes in,” she says. “You can put it on as high pressure as you want and no backsplash will come up.”

During the mini tour, Kardashian also showed off her minimalist light switches, a bathtub that can fit all of her children, and a giant television in her bedroom that disappears into the floor when it’s not being used.

Watch for yourself below:

Original Post: SOS, people: I can’t stop thinking about Kim Kardashian and Kanye West‘s bathroom sinks.

What am I talking about, you ask? Well, let me direct your attention to the “73 Questions” video Kardashian West filmed for Vogue magazine last week. The soon-to-be lawyer gave fans a rare look inside her Hidden Hills, California, mansion, which she describes as a “minimal monastery.” That essentially means there’s nothing in her house. The furniture is all white. There’s no art on the walls. Kimye’s home is so bare and eerie that Kenny G looked trapped when he played the sax in their living room a few weeks ago. When it comes to their décor, the Wests are fully embracing the phrase “Less is more.”

And this applies to their bathroom sinks too. I know what you’re thinking: How can you make a bathroom sink “minimal”? It’s just a sink. But Kim and Kanye have done just that by installing sinks in their master bathroom with—wait for it—no basins. One eagle-eyed fan pointed this out on Twitter, and it’s caused a mass frenzy.

“Can someone PLEASE explain the sinks at kim & kanye’s house,” the user wrote. Take one look at the sinks, below, and you’ll be just as perplexed.

These sinks have taken over my life and possibly damaged my pupils. I’ve been staring at them for so long that I’m now seeing spots. Kris Jenner’s face is beginning to form in the marble. This is making me question everything: science, physics, my life, my choices. Where the hell does the water go? Wouldn’t it spill all over those bare, eerie floors? Do Kim and Kanye have some kind of magic water that nourishes without making a mess? That seems like something rich people would invest in.

Here are just a handful of people who are feeling personally victimized by these sinks:

Obviously, I couldn’t let this story go without figuring out how these possessed sinks work—and it turns out the explanation isn’t that exciting. If you look closely at the photo, you’ll see the countertop isn’t flat: It’s concave, which allows the water to trickle down to a tiny hole located 10 inches from the faucet.

There you have it, folks. The case of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West’s mystery sinks is solved. If only the answer were more exciting, like Kris cast a spell on the countertops or something. You know she has the power to do that.

Here’s What Coachella Music Festival Is Really Like

1:45 P.M. I stop by an event for Tresemme, where celebrity hairstylist Justine Marjan is doing Coachella looks. (For my fellow Bravo fans out there, she’s the one responsible for Dorit’s blunt ponytails on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.) I choose a beaded accessory that says “dope” because when in Rome! My husband opts to sit in the car instead since the air conditioning and Wi-Fi hotspot allow him to hang out and catch up on work.

3:04 P.M. Hungry, we decide to take full advantage of having a car and head to Sonic Drive-Thru for lunch. We enjoy our limeades and burgers over the center counsel as we plug in directions for the festival.

4:05 P.M. It’s still early enough in the day that traffic and parking aren’t a problem. We breeze into the lot, scan our wristbands for entry, and go through security screening. I’m pleased to discover that my phone has saved the location of where the car is parked. Way better than wandering around the lot helplessly, like I’ve done in the past.

5:35 P.M. Once inside the grounds we get the lay of the land, checking out the different food options and art installations before heading to the main Coachella stage to see Kacey Musgrave’s set. She kills it, as I knew she would.

7:01 P.M. After Kacey plays, we wander over to Cupcake Vineyards’ frozé station. Gorgon City plays on the stage nearby. I’m not familiar with their music, but we stay and watch the set while we enjoy our drink.

8:03 P.M. Back to the main stage area, where we get food and catch Anderson .Paak’s high-energy set. People don’t talk about the food at Coachella much, but there are lots of options. It’s more expensive than eating at home, yes, but nothing I felt was totally prohibitive. I got a slice of pizza; not the most original pick, but it tasted great.

8:25 P.M. The 1975 are up next. Remember when everyone thought the lead singer, Matthew Healy, was dating Taylor Swift? Their music is fun and upbeat; I bop around while I sneak in some people watching. It’s harder than you’d think to spot celebrities because, well, everyone’s dressed the same. I’m just wearing jean shorts and sneakers, and I feel like the chaperone on the school trip.

9:30 P.M. We attempt to see Diplo, but the crowd is wild. Everyone seems to be drunk—or something else—and people have lost all sense of personal space and boundaries. After getting pushed out of the way and stepped on one too many times, I feel a bit panicked. That claustrophobic feeling only gets worse when the music starts playing, and I want to leave. ASAP. Bill feels the same way. Good thing it’s early enough in the night that we’re able to make it back to the hotel in time to catch Childish Gambino’s set on the YouTube live stream. I was looking forward to seeing him live, but I couldn’t hang.

Saturday, April 13

10:14 A.M. I must have been exhausted, because I actually sleep in. I put on my bathing suit and shuffle down to the hotel’s Starbucks, get an iced green tea lemonade, and head out to the pool to snag a good seat. It’s crowded from about 12 P.M. to 2 P.M., then people start leaving for parties.

2:45 P.M. I shower, get dressed for the day, and drive to an event with Bill. It takes a while to find an open parking space, and then from there we take a shuttle to the estate where the party is taking place. We stay until around 4:30, when the event ends, but there’s such a mad rush to the shuttles—again, be warned that people are very shove-y at Coachella—that we decide it’s better to just walk the 10 minutes back to the parking lot.

How ‘Life in Pieces’ Is Tackling Pregnancy With a Realness Rarely Seen on Sitcoms

A woman pooping during childbirth isn’t something you expect to see on television. It’s definitely not something you expect to see on a network comedy. In fact, there’s only one sitcom I can think of that’s done it: Life in Pieces, when it premiered on CBS in 2015. “I got a lot of feedback from that episode,” Zoe Lister-Jones tells Glamour of the scene where her character, Jen, gives birth. “It was so unabashedly real about what labor is really like…the things that don’t get talked about. I have to say, my friends really loved seeing that.”

Now in its fourth season—which premieres today—the show’s executive producer and writer Barbie Adler want to keep that moment going, by continually showing the humor in these very real situations. A lot of that comes from Jen’s storyline. She’s pregnant again—and though she’s been on this journey before, there’s plenty of new material Adler wanted to explore.

“There’s an episode about food sensitivities and smells for Jen, and I went through it with my husband,” Adler says. She drew from her own pregnancy for the episode; for a time, she couldn’t be around her spouse, Life in Pieces creator Justin Adler, because she was so sensitive to smell. “That’s just a miserable part of pregnancy, and it can last a long time. It causes tension in a relationship. The woman is pregnant, but the partner feels pressures as well and obviously he can’t quite voice that when she’s vomiting on the floor.”

Other topics this season include a leaky bladder, hot flashes, and what happens when a relative walks in on an exposed breast. “They’re just about as real as it gets,” Adler says of the storylines. “Jen has a really strong sense of humor about the circumstances. You’ve got no choice but to go with it when you sneeze or cough and pee comes out. Those things happen!”

It’s also why, four seasons in, Lister-Jones is still loving the role of Jen. “There’s a lot of truth to what we’re playing,” she says. “The more that these parts of women’s lives are represented authentically, the better. Telling the realities of pregnancy or motherhood or marriage in a way that feels relevant and unapologetic is always exciting.”

And as long as the audience keeps tuning in, Adler is happy to draw from her own life to make women feel less alone. “You want to feel what you’re writing is funny but can connect to people. I had miserable pregnancies. During each one there wasn’t a moment where I felt it was beautiful and my body was changing in a wonderful way,” she says, laughing. “I had seen so many portrayals of perfect pregnancies, and I was like, ‘No, that’s not what happened to me.’ It’s gratifying to know I wasn’t the only person that went through that.”

It’s also why Adler and the team are excited to give a voice to women—and men—who are experiencing fertility issues. Colleen and Matt (played by Angelique Cabral and Thomas Sadoski) explore adoption this season, among other twists and turns in their journey to parenthood. “There’s so many ways that people are making their families,” Adler says. “For some people it comes with such ease, while others have had heartache for five or 10 years. It was important for me to show the different experiences and finding the light at the end of the tunnel, even if the tunnel keeps getting blocked by a boulder. You just keep finding options. Most important, these couples have each other to get them through it.”

Jessica Radloff is Glamour’s West Coast editor.

Sophie Turner Says Her Friendship With Maisie Williams Once Had a “Destructive” Side

Sophie Turner and Maisie Williams have become super close playing the Stark sisters on Game of Thrones over the last eight years. So much so that Williams once joked that the whole series was just an elaborate way to bring the two together.

They’re so tight, though, that Turner just revealed on Dr. Phil’s Phil in the Blanks podcast that their friendship had a “quite destructive” side because they didn’t really talk to anyone else on set besides each other.

The comment was part of a larger conversation Turner had with Dr. Phil about how important mental health has become to her. In her late teens, she said she began to experience depression—a result, she thinks, of the fact that she was working on the show and living at home while her friends were off at college. Williams was someone she frequently relied on because they understood each other.

“I have a friend, Maisie, who was on the show with me, she’s just a year younger than me and she and I were growing up together,” Turner told Dr. Phil. “She was my best friend, and she was the only one I really told about all of it.”

However, that the two often shut other people out as their bond grew stronger.

“Maisie and I used to [stay inside] together. I think being friends with each other was quite destructive because we were going through the same thing,” Turner said, adding, “We used to get home from set, go to a Tesco across the road, a little supermarket, and just buy food. We’d go back to our room and eat it in bed. We never socialized for a couple of years. We didn’t socialize with anyone but ourselves.”

Now they seem to have found other ways to spend their time together. In another interview, Turner shared that she and Williams had a very specific way of decompressing from the stress of the hit HBO series. “We just used to sit there and eat and watch stupid videos and smoke weed,” she said during a talk at New York Comic Con. “I don’t know if my publicist will kill me for saying this. We’d get high and then we’d sit in the bath together and we’d rub makeup brushes on our faces. It’s fun.”

All of those experiences seem to have bonded the two actresses for life. Turner has called her connection to Williams “the purest form of true, true friendship,” and it’s not likely that their Stark sisterhood will fade, even after the show comes to its highly anticipated end this year.

As for her own mental health, Turner told Dr. Phil she has prioritized and scheduled time to take time for herself. “I actually am still on my break,” she said. “I took a break off of work to focus on my mental health because I thought it was important.”

It’s Beyond Refreshing That Even Beyoncé Experiences Self-Doubt as a Mother

In the early hours of Wednesday morning, I found myself in complete awe, once again, of Beyoncé. The artist just dropped her Netflix documentary, Homecoming, along with a surprise live album of the same name, because why stop at one thing? Both chronicle her now-iconic performance headlining 2018’s Coachella music festival, an incredible show that served as a tribute to the rich and storied history of historically black colleges and universities. The performance was a testament to her ability to seamlessly move culture forward. In short, she’s called Queen Bey for a reason.

The thing is, as her documentary reveals, Beyoncé’s work is never, ever effortless. Her work ethic is unparalleled, and it’s one big reason why she is so successful. It’s why I’m firmly in the Beyhive. Still, as I watched the documentary I found I didn’t care about the music or dancing. I was much more impressed that Beyoncé talked so openly about the challenges of motherhood and her second pregnancy, from the physical struggles like high blood pressure and an emergency C-section to the timing interfering with her professional plans.

As you might remember, she had originally been set to headline Coachella in 2017 but had to drop out due to her pregnancy complications with her twins, Rumi and Sir, who were born that summer. “There were days where I thought I’d never be the same,” she says, about her feelings after giving birth. “I’d never be the same physically. My strength and endurance would never be the same.”

I’m approaching the third trimester of my first pregnancy. It’s been an incredible—but challenging—time in my life, and I made the decision to temporarily pull back on my career to focus on my health and family after struggling for years to conceive. During this process, even at my happiest moments, I’ve been haunted by fear. Fear of the things you’re not supposed to say aloud: Will I be a good mom? Is the career I worked so hard to build over? Will my body ever be the same? Will we be OK financially? Will I still be me? The questions linger at night while I lie awake. Sometimes they’re soothed by the feeling of my baby kicking or the peaceful look on my sleeping husband’s face. Other times, the thunderous roar of self-doubt threatens to drown me right there in my bed.

But this morning I caught a new wave of inspiration. I saw in Beyoncé another woman who has gone to battle with herself and the world to achieve what she has. I may not share her talent or celebrity, but what we do share something so much more poignant at this moment in my life: the profound mental struggle that it takes to overcome the hurdles of being a woman and, more specifically, a mother.

Beyoncé is wildly successful and respected, yet even she questions her decision to be at work over being with her children. Even Beyoncé is a wife who has dealt with the highs and lows of a marriage. She’s a woman who, after months of self-consciously trying to get her body to be what it was before baby, ultimately accepted and thrived in her new normal.

That’s not to say that Beyoncé lives a normal life. (Stars, they’re just like us!) But it’s compelling to see someone at her level make other women, especially Black women, feel seen. At times she is like all of us, even when her success and talent make her seem like none of us. This morning, Homecoming inspired me to not stop wanting more for myself. To push through the self-doubt to create my own brand of magic. If Bey can do that, I’m pretty sure I can too.

Allison McGevna is an editor and writer based in New York City. You can follow her @AllieMcGev on Twitter and Instagram.

Bekah Martinez’s Breastfeeding Photo Brought Out The Mommy Shamers

Bachelor fan favorite Bekah Martinez is enjoying mom life after revealing late last year that she was pregnant with her first child. But on Tuesday, she sent the Internet into a frenzy after posting a photo of herself breastfeeding while holding a glass of wine—something that had mommy shamers calling her out en masse, even though most medical experts agree that alcohol in careful moderation will not affect a baby while nursing.

To be clear, Bekah did make sure people knew she wasn’t breastfeeding and drinking at the same time. In the caption, she wrote that she “was waiting patiently for her [daughter] to finish nursing before beginning my (single!) glass of wine :).”

That didn’t stop the torrent of angry comments: “Just stop breastfeeding [if] you can’t commit to your daughter,” one person said. Another piped in, “How stupid are you?”

Breastfeeding and drinking—as long as it’s in moderation—is fine according to most experts. The CDC says that while not drinking is the safest option, “generally, moderate alcohol consumption by a breastfeeding mother (up to 1 standard drink per day) is not known to be harmful to the infant, especially if the mother waits at least 2 hours after a single drink before nursing.” As some commenters pointed out, it doesn’t appear that Bekah was guzzling an entire bottle; she simply planned to have one glass after feeding her baby.

Bekah, who keeps things pretty personal, isn’t the only mom who has been question for her breastfeeding habits. The situation was pretty similar to one Jessie James Decker found herself tangled in last year; she laid down the law, telling mommy shamers she didn’t care what they thought.

Moments like these are indicative of a larger judgment that woman face when they become new moms or reveal that they’re expecting. Just this month, a pregnant woman’s Reddit post went viral when she explained that a stranger at her local coffee shop grabbed a drink out of her hand and threw it in the trash, saying, “You can’t have it, you’re not allowed.”

Even when it’s well intentioned, those who aren’t informed simply shouldn’t make comments, let alone decisions about women’s bodies. Period. (FYI, having a coffee while you’re pregnant isn’t harmful, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists—aka the people who are informed enough to make decisions about maternal health.) Just another reminder of that mom-shaming is rarely helpful or productive.

9 Foods to Avoid When Trying to Get Pregnant

Eating right isn’t always easy—especially when you’re pregnant and looking at a whole new set of nutrition rules. But even if you’re just starting to think about conceiving, some dietary changes are in order.

Part of it is eating enough fruits, vegetables, whole grains—foods that are always good for you—but more critical are the foods you should be avoiding when you’re trying to get pregnant. Artificial ingredients, synthetic hormones, and potential contaminants could make conception less likely and may even be harmful to a potential fetus.

We should say: Don’t freak out if you’ve eaten any of these things recently—they are not likely cause much harm in moderation. But if you want to be safe, your best bet is to keep these foods to a minimum when you’re trying to get pregnant, and keep them mostly off the list once you get a positive test too.

1. High-mercury fish

Mercury can damage the nervous system, which means that consuming mercury-rich seafood like swordfish and tuna while pregnant could directly harm the fetus, says Kendra Tolbert, R.D. (The FDA recently updated its guidelines about safe and unsafe choices; see them here.) Eating high-mercury fish before you’re pregnant could build up stores of mercury in your body, which could also affect the development of the baby’s nervous system. “The fetal nervous system is being formed before most woman even know they are pregnant,” explains registered dietitian Suzanne Fisher. Mercury may also decrease fertility.

2. Soda

A few studies have also linked soda—both diet and regular—to lower fertility. “We think it’s a combination of the inflammation and metabolic changes caused by too much blood-sugar-spiking sweeteners and gut-bacteria-changing artificial sweeteners,” says Tolbert. Plus, many soft drinks come in containers that have BPA and other chemicals you might want to avoid.

3. Trans fats

Trans fats, which are found in foods like certain chips or microwave popcorns, baked goods made with shortening, and fried foods, can cause inflammation and insulin resistance, which lowers fertility, says Tolbert. And in excess they can damage your blood vessels, disrupting the flow of nutrients to the reproductive system. Men should also go easy on trans fats while trying to conceive because they decrease sperm count and quality.

4. High glycemic-index foods

If you want to increase your fertility, avoid foods that make your blood sugar spike, especially if you’re not pairing them with foods that slow down that rise. “Blood sugar spikes can cause inflammation, alter our hormones, and impede ovulation,” says Tolbert. Try to choose slow burning carbs, like whole-wheat bread and pasta and brown rice over refined ones when possible, and combine them with protein, fiber, and healthy fats.

5. Low-fat dairy

Low-fat milk, yogurt, and other dairy products may contain androgens, male hormones that get left in when fat is removed, says Tolbert. These foods and drinks may spur your body to produce androgens, which can interfere with your menstrual cycle.

6. Excess alcohol

The CDC recommends that women who could get pregnant avoid alcohol entirely (not exactly realistic), but if you’re going to drink, Tolbert suggests capping it at seven drinks per week. Alcohol, like mercury, can contribute to infertility, and it depletes your body of vitamin B, which improves your chances of pregnancy and supports a fetus’ growth.

7. Unpasteurized soft cheeses

Cheeses like Brie, Roquefort, Camembert, and Gorgonzola have a higher risk of containing listeria, which can increase your risk for miscarriage, says Fisher.

8. Deli meat

Processed meat like lunch meat and hot dogs, as well as smoked fish, are also vulnerable to listeria contamination. If you want to eat deli meat, Fisher recommends heating it up until it’s steaming to kill bacteria.

9. Raw animal products

Raw meat, seafood, and eggs might contain salmonella, coliform bacteria, or toxoplasmosis, which can infect a fetus if it passes through the placenta, says Fisher. Make sure to cook all animal products thoroughly, and skip sushi, carpaccios, and the like.