Demi Burnett Came Out on Bachelor in Paradise, and It Wasn’t a Total Disaster

Demi also came out to Tayshia Adams last night, and Tayshia offered, “I hate that you feel you have to hide behind such a strong shield and not be who you really want to be.” Obviously, we should be at a place where queer people shouldn’t have to worry about straight people blanching at the notion of same-sex love—but clearly, we’re not, and Demi was justified in being nervous to open up.

The show’s host, Chris Harrison spoke to The Hollywood Reporter about Demi’s storyline and admitted, “I’m not exactly sure how we would have embraced Demi’s situation in year’s past.” He added, “I am not so naïve as to think that dealing with a same-sex relationship is going to be this happy rainbow conversation and all of America is going to rejoice.” But ultimately, Harrison said they’ve “leaned on” the queer producers behind-the-camera to tell the story “properly.”

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“I felt that I owed it to them and to everybody else in that community to do this right and to make it respectable,” he said. “To tell this story properly in their honor. I leaned on them and we all leaned on them to make sure they felt like this was being fairly and respectfully portrayed.”

In the episode, Demi also opened up to Derek Peth, who she’s been casually seeing on Paradise, about the woman she’s been dating—and still has feelings for—back home. He, too, happily surprised me. He never made any gross or reductive comments, something I always fear in telling straight men that I date women. Instead, he was so purely human in his response, fearing that Demi’s heart was somewhere else, regardless of the gender of that other person.

Peth asked, “How can you both consider that and me simultaneously? And have this be just as meaningful, if not, you know, potentially more?” Any BiP love triangle would’ve begged the same question. Derek’s no hero for treating a queer person like a person, but he did do his part in normalizing queerness on this show.

So far, BiP is nailing Demi’s storyline. However, I have to say I’d be interested to see what the reactions from both male and female contestants would’ve looked like had a man come out as bisexual on the show. Regardless, it’s a start—and I can’t wait for Demi’s girlfriend to show up and burn this heterosexual island to the ground.

BaubleBar Is Launching Fine Jewelry—And Everything’s Under $1,000

Julia Roberts, Jessica Alba, and Lupita Nyong’o love its affordable statement pieces. And while it’ll still be a go-to for rainbow rings and shell hoops, BaubleBar is dipping in its toes into proper, solid-gold and diamond fine jewelry. And everything is under $1,000.

BaubleBar’s Fine Collection will now be a permanent category at the cult-favorite jewelry brand. It’s launching with rings and earrings, ranging from $55 for studs to $995 for a diamond signet ring.

“We have always been a brand committed to offering the best assortment of accessories at an accessible price point, and we rely on our customers to tell us what they want,” co-founder Amy Jain tells Glamour. “From DM’s to emails, texts to calls, people found a way to tell us what they wanted. Since launching our gold vermeil collection in 2017, the request for fine jewelry only grew stronger. We know purchasing fine jewelry is a very thoughtful decision so we put the same care into developing our Fine Collection, ensuring it was the best product at the best price.”

The aesthetic of the collection draws from Scandinavian fashion, which design director Danielle Roever describes as “a mix of comfort and basics with an unexpected pop of fashion that makes your eyes swoon and brings a smile to your face.” It’s been inspiring her work over the past year, and it definitely factored into the look of BaubleBar’s latest assortment. “With our fine jewelry, there’s an ease to it but also a fashion perspective that makes you want it,” she says. “It was important to me that the line bring people fun, fashion-forward fine jewelry at high-end materials.”

Roever sees BaubleBar’s Fine Collection as something to be “mixed and matched” with the brand’s more affordable pieces. “There’s nothing better than a high-low mix,” she says. Shop some of our favorite pieces from the new, higher-end line, ahead.

BaubleBar Is Launching Fine Jewelry—And Everything’s Less Than $1,000

Julia Roberts, Jessica Alba, and Lupita Nyong’o love its affordable statement pieces. And while it’ll still be a go-to for rainbow rings and shell hoops, BaubleBar is dipping in its toes into proper, solid-gold and diamond fine jewelry. And everything is less than $1,000.

BaubleBar’s Fine Collection will now be a permanent category at the cult-favorite jewelry brand. It’s launching with rings and earrings, ranging from $55 for studs to $995 for a diamond signet ring.

“We have always been a brand committed to offering the best assortment of accessories at an accessible price point, and we rely on our customers to tell us what they want,” cofounder Amy Jain tells Glamour. “From DMs to emails, texts to calls, people found a way to tell us what they wanted. Since launching our gold vermeil collection in 2017, the request for fine jewelry only grew stronger. We know purchasing fine jewelry is a very thoughtful decision, so we put the same care into developing our Fine Collection, ensuring it was the best product at the best price.”

The aesthetic of the collection draws from Scandinavian fashion, which design director Danielle Roever describes as “a mix of comfort and basics with an unexpected pop of fashion that makes your eyes swoon and brings a smile to your face.” It’s been inspiring her work over the past year, and it definitely factored into the look of BaubleBar’s latest assortment. “With our fine jewelry, there’s an ease to it but also a fashion perspective that makes you want it,” she says. “It was important to me that the line bring people fun, fashion-forward fine jewelry at high-end materials.”

Roever sees BaubleBar’s Fine Collection as something to be “mixed and matched” with the brand’s more affordable pieces. “There’s nothing better than a high-low mix,” she says. Shop some of our favorite pieces from the new, higher-end line, ahead.

Hemiplegic Migraines: It Took a 400-Mile Trek for Me to Finally Stop Resenting My Body

Black blobs and bright squiggles bounce into view, blurring the tree-lined trail in front of me. This isn’t the ethereal sight of early morning light filtering through the forest that inspires photographers, poets, and painters. This is the stuff of my nightmares. The orbs are visual auras (not to be confused with the spiritual term of the same spelling)—the kind that typically precede a migraine or seizure. They’re the Oh Sh*t Alarm System that tells me I’ve got minutes or maybe seconds to prepare for an impending neurological storm.

I have a rare condition called hemiplegic migraine. The unpredictable and debilitating symptoms mimic a stroke and can include these visual auras as well as sensory auras (numbness and tingling), motor auras (partial temporary paralysis), and aphasia (the inability to comprehend or speak). That’s in addition to the actual migraine pain, piercing electrical pulses through the brain, hypersensitivity to light and sound, and subsequent “migraine hangover.”

If I were at home and the unwelcome orbs appeared, I’d follow my personal migraine protocol: drink water and some kind of caffeine with sugar (coffee, tea, and/or dark chocolate), pop a prescribed amount of Aleve, consume some quick calories, lay down in the dark, and hopefully ride it out.

That’s the best case scenario. Other times, I lose the ability to comprehend and speak. The first time this happened about 10 years ago, I remember looking down at a magazine on the floor of my friend’s car, trying to read the words on the cover—a quick and silent self-administered test to reassure myself I was ok. I could see the words on the page but I couldn’t comprehend them. They may as well have been hieroglyphics or an abstract painting, totally illegible to me in that moment. I looked over to my friend in the driver’s seat, panicked and wanting to scream for help. But I could barely see him through the visual auras. I couldn’t put together even a simple sentence in my mind, let alone command my mouth to move. I was trapped inside my own mind.

When the symptoms of a hemiplegic migraine attack reach this level, they’re similar to a stroke. In fact, when they get this bad, I need to get to a hospital just to rule out that I’m not having a stroke. On the outside, I look confused and unresponsive. On the inside, it feels like my body and brain have been hijacked—my eyes are open but I can’t form complete thoughts, can’t verbalize what is happening, and can’t ask for help. I’m completely powerless.

The Anatomy of an Attack

Here on the tree-lined trail in the Zubia Forest of northern Jordan, I’m not sure how far away the nearest hospital is—I’m with a handful of hikers I hardly know, five days into a 44-day hike across the country—and I’m desperately hoping I don’t have to find out.

On the Jordan Trail.Courtesy of Sunny Fitzgerald

The Best Places to Buy a Wedding Dress Online

Of all the words that can describe the experience of shopping for a wedding dress, easy or simple don’t typically come up. If movies and television have taught us anything, it’s that the quest to “say yes to the dress” is a narrative of blood, sweat, and tears. But in recent years there’s been a promise of less painful, less stressful ways to shop for the dress, thanks to online-only bridal destinations (like Fame & Partners and Floravere) and affordable capsules from some of your favorite brands (hello, Sézane and H&M) that offer plenty of on-trend styles and deliver them right to your doorstep.

Yes, you might still need to seek out alterations for a truly “perfect” fit, or want to visit your local bridal salon to consider all your options. But these companies offer an alternative—and, in many cases, more budget-friendly—experience that takes some of the pressure off the process, streamlining decisions and letting you try on things at your own pace. Plus, whether your bridal style is bohemian or classic, there’s an online store that has a sample that fits your needs.

Ahead, check out 11 wedding-dress destinations that should be on every bride’s radar.

Ashley Graham Is Pregnant With Her First Child

Congratulations are in order for Ashley Graham and her husband, Justin Ervin. The supermodel announced on Wednesday, August 14, that she is expecting her first child.

“Nine years ago today, I married the love of my life,” Graham posted on Instagram. “It has been the best journey with my favorite person in the world! Today, we are feeling so blessed, grateful and excited to celebrate with our GROWING FAMILY! Happy anniversary, @mrjustinervin ❤️ Life is about to get even better. 😘”

Ervin adorably commented, “I love you, babe. (And I love you, baby.)”

Check out the post for yourself, below:

Ervin shared in his own post (along with a sonogram shot), “To my forever love and my daily inspiration. Happy anniversary @ashleygraham These 9 years have played out like a lifetime. I guess it’s because my life really started once you came into it. Now that we’ve made a life together, let’s make a life together. I love you and I love us. All of us…”

The love immediately started rolling in for the former Glamour Woman of the Year from celebrity friends. Singer Rita Ora commented, “Congratulations ❤️❤️❤️.” Grownish star Yara Shahidi replied, “🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 👶🏽 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽,” while designer Brandon Maxwell said, “Oh my god congratulations you guys!!!!! Lucky baby!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.”

We can’t wait to see Graham’s pregnancy style and how she embraces this new chapter in her life. The fashion icon is also a fierce body-positivity activist, which will no-doubt play a role in how she approaches pregnancy. “I’m never going to be big enough, I’m never going to be small enough,” she told Glamour last fall. “I’m always going to be too loud, I’m always going to be too quiet; I’m never going to be good enough for anyone. So I might as well just stay in my own lane and be great enough for me.”

Many congrats to the happy couple!

People Think Netflix’s New Show Ginny & Georgia Will Be the Next Gilmore Girls

Have you been missing the quick, clever, pop culture-tinged mother-daughter banter of the Gilmore Girls as much as we have? Well, it sounds like Netflix may have just found a suitable replacement for Lorelai (Lauren Graham) and Rory (Alexis Bledel): Ginny & Georgia.

Deadline reports that the streaming platform has ordered 10 episodes of a show called Ginny & Georgia, and it seems to have a lot of Gilmore Girls DNA, which makes us excited.

Here’s the gist on the story: It’s about 15-year-old Ginny Miller (Antonia Gentry) and her 30-year-old mother, Georgia (Brianne Howy). We’re already seeing the resemblance here, but Deadline also notes that the awkward teen often feels more mature than her mother, who is described as “irresistible and dynamic.” Sound familiar?

Not as familiar as the show’s next plot point: According to Deadline, Georgia, keen on giving Ginny a more stable life, relocates their family to a gorgeous New England town. It’s there where they navigate a new prestigious school and romances, both for mother and daughter.

So let’s recap: We have a great mother-daughter duo who aren’t super far apart in age (like the Gilmores), a New England setting (ahem, Stars Hollow), and a prestigious school (like Chilton). There’s even a local farm-to-table restaurant owner who sounds an awful lot like Luke. There are some differences, of course, including a younger brother for Ginny. But the parallels are undeniable. We bet Ginny and Georgia are big coffee fans, too.

People online are already having strong reactions to the show. “Soooo gilmore girls but with a twist?,” one Twitter user wrote. Another said, “Sounds like Gilmore girls but edgier.”

Ginny & Georgia is currently in production. We’ll have to wait until the show debuts in 2020 to find out how similar it actually is to Gilmore Girls, but color us intrigued.

After Three Marriages, Vanessa Williams Has Some Relationship Advice for You

Vanessa Williams has been in the spotlight since 1984, when she was crowned Miss America. In the decades since, she’s done it all: earned Grammy nominations as a singer, starred in beloved blockbusters and series, written a memoir, and even somehow found the time to fit in multiple stints on Broadway. A mom of four, she’s also been married three times: first to music manager Ramon Hervey II in 1987, then to NBA player Rick Fox in 1999, and currently to retired accountant Jim Skrip. (They wed in 2015.) Along the way, she’s collected plenty of wisdom about what it takes to make a marriage work—and what will send it off the rails.

I believe what you expect from marriage starts with how you’re raised—it’s the template for how you behave, what your comfort level is, and what you’re willing to tolerate. My parents got married in 1960, but they had a very modern approach to their relationship. My mother’s always been extremely independent, and my father never gave her ultimatums: She was always able to be who she wanted to be. My expectations for a relationship were modeled on what I learned from them.

I want to be clear: I’ve been married three times, and all my husbands are good men. I wouldn’t have married them if they weren’t decent people. I think men go through different phases of their lives, though. It’s great when that syncs up with what you want, but sometimes it might be later in your life when that happens.

I was 23 the first time I got married. My then-husband was 33. I was just starting getting started in my career when I became a mother: I had my first child at 24, my second at 26, and my third at 30. My husband was my manager, so we were working on my career together along with raising children. At this point, I’ve been a mother so long that it’s hard to remember what my life was like before then. But parenthood has never felt like a burden: It strengthened my outlook on life and made me more ambitious in my career.

I was always working my professional life and my life as a wife and mother simultaneously. That means you have to be independent and make decisions. The kids’ schedules always came first, and my career came second, even though I was always the main money-maker. Unfortunately, that meant the marriage came third. When I’d go away to promote albums, my husband came with as my manager, which was a good thing. I think it would have been the same if I was a lawyer or in some other profession: There were a lot of demands on my time, so you do the best you can. There’s no such thing as balance. When you’re working hard you’re feeling guilty. You hope your partner understands the kids have to come first a lot of times. When there’s a baby crying, you’ve got to attend to it.

Williams and Hervey in 1995.

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You’re just not going to be 100% available, and the marriage—the relationship—does change. I think women marry expectations: They see the reality of someone, but they think they can change it. And I think men marry who the woman is at that moment—they don’t feel like she will ever change and can’t handle it when she evolves. My first marriage lasted 10 years. We had some issues with infidelity. I hung in there for awhile, until there came a time when I couldn’t anymore.

My second husband was six years younger than I was: When we got married, I was 36. At the time, I worried about being too old, even though I was still very young. He was in the NBA, which is basically another kind of show business and high profile in a way I hadn’t experienced before. We had a different set of issues than my first marriage, mostly because we weren’t on the same coast most of it: He was on the road or out in Los Angeles, and after our daughter was born I was on the East Coast, raising four children and flying across the country every two weeks.

Given our professions, proximity was a tremendous obstacle, so we had that issue on top of the age thing. But also, my expectations of a relationship had a really high benchmark because of my father. He was so good at everything: He could fix a car, he could do electrical work, he could build anything, he was a problem solver. He was also faithful, had incredible integrity, and was respected in his community. My father was my example of what I expected to find in a partner. And that’s impossible for anyone to live up to.

The Trailer for Emilia Clarke and Henry Golding’s Last Christmas Is So Charming

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. And by that we mean, studios are releasing trailers for all the movies that will be coming out later this fall and holiday season.

Yesterday, it was Little Women, and today brings us the extremely charming first trailer for Last Christmas, the rom-com starring Game of ThronesEmilia Clarke and Henry Golding, he of Crazy Rich Asians fame. Oh, and the movie was written by (and co-stars) the great Emma Thompson and is directed by Paul Feig, who did Bridesmaids, Ghostbusters, and A Simple Favor, which also featured Golding.

In the trailer, we meet Clarke’s Kate, who works in a year-round Christmas-themed store as an elf, where her boss, played by Michelle Yeoh, has nicknamed her “Lazy the Elf.” She bumps into Tom (Golding) outside of the store one day—right before a bird literally poops in her eye—and the strike up an adorable conversation. Of course, this being a rom-com, the two keep randomly meeting and growing closer.

Later in the trailer, Tom takes Kate to a homeless shelter where he volunteers, and she opens up to him about a near-death experience that’s eerily similar to Clarke’s own real-life situation. (Earlier this year, the actor opened up about suffering through brain aneurysms that almost killed her.) “”I was really sick and I nearly died. I don’t tell people because they get weird, but I don’t think you’ll get weird,” her character says. “I’m just scared all the time.” But there appears to be something mysterious (or perhaps magical) about Tom, who disappears for periods of time, according to Kate.

We also meet her family, including an overbearing mother, played by Thompson, and a nagging sister. The movie features the music of the late George Michael, including the song the film is named for, which is basically a cherry on top of this whole situation.

Watch the trailer, below:

Last Christmas opens in theaters on November 8.

Pearl Jewelry for Fall 2019: Best Pieces to Shop

First, there was seashell jewelry. Then, there were pearl hair clips—and, of course, what was probably the most photographed headband of all time. These trends became inescapable, in the age of endless scrolling through Instagram and the near-constant stream of street-style inspiration. And now, it’s evolved into its next form, right in time for fall.

Whereas “pearl jewelry” might evoke super-polished, glammed-up images of Audrey Hepburn or Grace Kelly, the modern interpretation isn’t so prim-and-proper. There are more natural shapes, a variety of colors to choose from, and tons of interesting metal work that add a sculptural element to the accessories. And celebrities have been loving it, giving the pearl jewelry revival the stamp of approval any trend needs to really take off: Zendaya wore pearl hoops from Baublebar to the Teen Choice Awards; Gigi Hadid has been photographed time and time again in Adornmonde’s pearl earrings; Ashley Graham loves Donni’s layered pearl pendants.

So, if you’re looking to spruce up your fall wardrobe with a lil’ something special, consider adding some pearl jewelry. Here are some of our favorite takes on the trend.