Demi Lovato Calls Out Tabloid Reports on Her Recovery: “It’s No One’s Business But Mine”

Demi Lovato has just shared an update on her recovery from what was reportedly a drug overdose in July—and clapped back at tabloids speculating about her health.

On Twitter Friday night (December 21), Lovato posted a series of tweets in which she defended her ongoing journey to sobriety. “I love my fans and I hate the tabloids,” she wrote. “Don’t believe what you read. People will literally make stuff up to sell a story.”

Lovato did not share where the rumors about her health came from, but she refuted them with a powerful statement: “I am sober and grateful to be alive and taking care of ME.”

She also added that when she wants to share her recovery journey in full, it will happen on her own terms: “Someday I’ll tell the world what exactly happened, why it happened and what my life is like today.. but until I’m ready to share that with people please stop prying and making up shit that you know nothing about. I still need space and time to heal.”

“Any ‘source’ out there that is willing to talk and sell stories to blogs and tabloids about my life isn’t actually a part of my life because most of the shit I see is soooooo inaccurate,” she said. “So newsflash: your ‘sources’ are wrong.”

She ended her message by reassuring fans that she is in a healthy place. “All my fans need to know is I’m working hard on myself, I’m happy and clean and I’m SO grateful for their support.”

“I’m so blessed I get to take this time to be with family, relax, work on my mind, body and soul and come back when I’m ready. I have my fans to thank for that. I’m so grateful, truly. I love you guys so fucking much 💗 thank you 🙏🏼,” she continued.

Lovato has already opened up about her recovery after being hospitalized following the reported overdose in July. She shared her first update in a letter on her Instagram in September, which has since been deleted. “I have always been transparent about my journey with addiction,” she said. “What I’ve learned is that this illness is not something that disappears or fades with time. It is something I must continue to overcome and have not done yet.”

All reports from Lovato’s family since then suggest that the singer is getting healthy. In September, her mother, Dianna de la Garza, said in an interview that Lovato is “getting the help she needs” to recover. Later, her younger sister, Madison de la Garza, shared an update on her health in an October interview. “She’s working really hard on her sobriety, and we’re all so incredibly proud of her,” she said.

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Self-Care Only Worked for Me When I Got Sober

When it comes to self-care, I’ve tried it all. Hot baths, hot yoga, trips to hot climates. Retail therapy, sun therapy, cat therapy, talk therapy. Massages, mindfulness, acupuncture, reiki. I felt pretty chill for an hour or so after a massage, sufficiently revitalized after working up a sweat with sun salutations and downward dogs—but the positive effects never lasted. For all my forays into the world of wellness none ever seem to make a real dent in the anxiety and bouts of depression I’ve been living with since my teens.

After years of this cycle, I finally realized the problem: All my self-care efforts were accompanied by a side helping of alcohol. A cold beer in the airport, to stem the stress of travel; a glass of wine, to wind down after a long day; a few flutes of champagne, to calm my nerves at a party; and, if things got really bad, a shot of vodka to dull my anxiety. Despite the dozens of wellness trends I was pouring myself into, I realized I was putting more effort into self-medicating than self-care.

Alcohol had become a soothing salve. I needed it.

For the longest time, I genuinely believed that alcohol was a legit component of my self-care regimen. After a tough day at work, I’d seek solace in a bottle of wine. Or two. It was my go-to when I needed to relax, deserved a reward after a stressful day of parenting, or was feeling sorry for myself. My “me time” invariably involved drinking—any other acts of self-care I engaged in took second place. And I didn’t see anything wrong with this. After all, treating yourself at happy hour or cuddling up with a bottle of chardonnay are often billed as totally acceptable forms of self-care. For years, I believed they were.

As a short-term measure, alcohol does seem to help. “It has a sedative effect on the brain,” says Channing Marinari, a licensed mental health counselor at Banyan Treatment Center. “This means that a few beers or glasses of wine can seem to relieve stress and make you feel more relaxed and calm.” But the reality is, alcohol can actually make your anxiety and depression worse, since booze is a depressant. “This can cause your problems to seem worse than they actually are,” Marinari says, leaving you more anxious and depressed than before you had a drink.

Using alcohol as a self-care strategy, in other words, is like downing a sugary soda to boost your energy—it may seem to work in the moment, but the sugar crash will only leave you more tired. “It becomes a vicious cycle,” says Jean Campbell, a licensed clinical social worker in California. “When the effects of the alcohol wear off, you not only have your original anxiety, but the added anxiety that sets up in the nervous system and brain when you stop using alcohol,” she says. Turning to the bar when I was feeling anxious or depressed meant I wasn’t developing healthy coping mechanisms. The result? Needing a drink became the one self-care strategy I couldn’t cope without.

Alcohol wasn’t really helping me take the edge off—it was slowly but surely making me even more stressed. After two decades of heavy drinking, I finally hit a turning point in June 2017. For a year, my drinking had gotten more and more out of control. Blackouts were no longer a rarity: Whether I’d been drinking solo at home to “relax” or hanging out with friends, I’d often wake up in the morning with absolutely no recollection of what had happened the night before. I had become totally emotionally dependent on alcohol and it was eating away at my ability to actually take care of myself. I wanted control of my life back.

I read as many sobriety memoirs as I could get my hands on, and found support from the sober community on Instagram. In the beginning, it really was one day at a time. My goal was just to make it to bedtime without succumbing to my inner wine witch—even that was difficult. As I marked off more sober days and weeks, I started to realize how much drinking had affected every aspect of my life. I was starting from scratch in so many ways: redefining relationships, working out how to socialize, and—one of the hardest things of all—learning how to approach self-care sober.

Without alcohol as my crutch, I needed real—healthy—self-care. Growing up, I thought that meant eating your veggies and getting enough sleep. Anything beyond that—the yoga, the reiki, the meditation—felt like luxuries. By the time I was old enough to appreciate the importance of caring for my inner self, I was already committed to drowning out her voice with copious amounts of wine. The revelation that self-care isn’t a luxury, but a necessity (for everybody, not only those who misuse alcohol and other drugs) was life-changing. After some trial and error, I’ve learned a 30-minute swim does more for my mental health than an hour on the massage table. Alone time and hot baths help make my anxiety manageable. None of these things are magic cures for anxiety or depression, but now that I’m sober, they make a lasting, meaningful difference.

At no time is this shift more apparent than during the holidays when booze is everywhere. This is the time of year I need to take care of my mental health the most—FOMO, financial strains, family stress, and an endless holiday to-do list make quick fixes like mulled wine and spiked hot cocoa seem more tempting than ever. But I remind myself that self-care can help keep me on the sober road. Last year, spending Christmas with drinkers was exhausting. I couldn’t face doing it all over again for New Year’s so, I politely declined a spate of party invites, stayed at home with my boyfriend and watched movies all day. I listened to myself, and did exactly what I needed to do to feel positive, strengthened and safe. Watching the ball drop sober, I realized I’d finally gotten self-care right.

Claire Gillespie is a writer living in Scotland with her blended family of eight. She dreams of moving to France to (finally) finish her novel.

The 10 Most Groundbreaking Beauty Campaigns of 2018

Everyone who’s heard of a little brand called Fenty Beauty and its 40 shades of foundation knows that the beauty business is changing. It took years of women staunchly advocating for themselves and celebrating every milestone along the way, but we’re proud to say the beauty industry has made progress—even if there is still room for vast improvement.

This year followed the momentum set forward in 2017, resulting in beauty campaigns that were more inclusive, more inspiring, and less singular in what “beautiful” constitutes. A few of our favorite game-changing moments managed to celebrate people of all ages, sizes, and so-called “flaws” like acne and body hair. In a perfect world, these campaigns would be the norm. But until then, let’s give one more shout out to beauty campaigns that raised the bar in 2018. CEOs and marketing managers, if you’re reading, here are the groundbreaking campaigns to beat in 2019.

CVS Went Photoshop-Free

Back in January, CVS announced that it would no longer use digitally-altered images in its beauty advertising. The brand created the CVS Beauty Mark, a watermark that announces to customers that an image hasn’t been edited. The company pledged to no longer change or enhance “a person’s shape, size, proportion, skin or eye color, wrinkles or any other individual characteristics.” Watermarked products bearing the beauty mark logo and the phrase “Beauty Unaltered” hit CVS shelves this year. CVS is also reportedly working towards developing retouching guidelines for the drugstore beauty brands it carries, with the goal of transparency in advertising by 2020.

Billie Showed Off Body Hair

It’s hard to believe, but this year, razor start-up Billie became the first razor company to show body hair in its advertisements. Called Project Body Hair, the campaign proudly starred pubes, lip hair, and happy trails. “Shaving is a personal choice, and no one should be telling women what to do with their hair,” Billie cofounder Georgina Gooley told Glamour. “The fact is, we all have body hair. Some of us choose to remove it, and some of us choose to wear it proudly—and either way, we shouldn’t have to apologize for our choice.”

Billie doubled sales in the week that Project Body Hair launched and completely sold out of product. (Don’t worry, they’ve long since been back in stock.) Some customers appreciated the inclusivity while others confessed that no matter how splashy the advertising, they just don’t think too much about which razor they buy. Either way, we’re grateful that Billie helped us acknowledge that what you do with your body hair is purely personal.

Revlon x Ashley Graham

Ashley Graham has been pounding on the door of the beauty industry, and for years, no one listened. “In the past I’ve been been told things like, ‘Well, you’re only plus-size from your neck down; your face isn’t plus-size,'” she told Glamour. “What does that even mean? If my face isn’t ‘plus-size,’ then by that logic, why wouldn’t you put me in a cosmetics campaign?” Finally—after years of the industry ignoring plus-size women—Revlon had the good sense to cast Graham as the face of their “Live Boldly” campaign, a meaningful move for Graham and the women she’s been begging to represent for years. “At the end of the day, I hope people understand how groundbreaking this is—that Revlon now has a curve model with a contract on their campaign,” said Graham at the time. “This should be the norm. I’m really hoping and striving that in the next 10 years we don’t even have to discuss this. Beauty is beyond size.”

KKW Body

When Kim Kardashian West modeled the bottle of her first KKW Body fragrance on her own famous figure, critics were frustrated with its seeming endorsement of unrealistic beauty ideals. Amidst the backlash, one body-positive blogger even re-created the campaign to prove that there’s no real definition of a “perfect” body. But the conversation didn’t end there. Kardashian launched two new body fragrances, KKW II and KKW III, with a campaign that managed to celebrate bodies of all sizes.

The photos featured plus-size women, posed in the same nude, suggestive way as Kim (and her perfume bottle). Kardashian’s growth is exactly what we hope to see more of next year and beyond: She listened to the critics, she grew, and made the choice to be more inclusive. “I was talking to some friends of mine, and I had seen a couple other people re-create the [original KKW Body] campaign and I just thought, You know what? It’s not always about my body,” she told Refinery29. “The bottle obviously is my body shape, but I always celebrate and love confident women no matter what shape or size they are.”

Babor x All Woman Project

Beauty giants aren’t the only ones making changes. Skincare brand Babor also ditched the airbrushed images this year to huge fanfare across the industry. In partnership with the All Woman Project, the company tapped non-traditional models and committed to publishing the photos without any editing. The campaign included 57-year-old model Nicola Griffin, international activist Nykhor-Nyakueinyang Paul, and former Glamour editor Lauren Chan. We can never use too many reminders that people of all ages, races, professions and sizes are beautiful, and Babor’s pared-down photos did just that. The campaign (and the accolades it gathered) helped set the tone for the future of beauty, and are working to inspire brands of all sizes to follow suit.

Isabella Rossellini Returns to Lancôme

In her late 20s, Isabella Rossellini signed a contract with Lancôme that made her the highest paid model in the world. She spent 18 years as the face of the brand, until, at age 42, she was told that she was no longer “aspirational” and let go. Even back in 1996, the break made headlines. But plenty has changed in the past few decades—including the fact that the General Manager of Lancôme International, Françoise Lehmann, is a woman.

This year, she approached Rossellini about returning to the brand. “[Lehmann] told me she wanted to be inclusive and not just portray women as beautiful when they’re young and thin with blond hair and blue eyes,” Rossellini told Glamour. “She wanted [the brand] to be an instrument of finding elegance and glamour, rather than dictating to women what they should be.” Rossellini said yes, and at age 66, she’s once again starring in a beauty campaign. The campaign is a reminder that beauty and youth aren’t synonymous, and as Rossellini notes, her fellow spokesmodels like Kate Winslet, Julia Roberts, and Penelope Cruz are also symbols of power. “Not only are these women incredibly beautiful, but they certainly speak up.”

The First CoverGirl With Vitiligo

The definition of “CoverGirl” has evolved immensely in the past few years. In 2017, the brand welcomed 69-year-old Maye Musk into its family, along with Issa Rae (of HBO’s Insecure), chef Ayesha Curry, fitness trainer Massy Arias, and motorcycle racer Shelina Moreda. The women embodied the brand’s new, more powerful motto: I Am What I Make Up.

In 2018, CoverGirl continued to push past stale definitions of beauty, starting by teaming up with Amy Deanna, a Texan model with vitiligo. Instead of using foundation to cover up or even out Deanna’s skin tone, the advertisements used TruBlend Foundation to enhance her tone differences. “Amy’s skin happens to have variations in tone, and it’s equally as beautiful as the skin we’re used to seeing in beauty ads. It’s about flipping the script on the one-dimensional standard of beauty,” said CoverGirl’s senior vice president Ukonwa Ojo. In a year when Winnie Harlow walked the Victoria’s Secret runway, vitiligo is seeing more representation than ever.

Secret Tackles the Pay Gap

Secret Deodorant took on both the gender pay disparity and the nuanced conversation about what exactly constitutes “women’s empowerment” with a music video that centered on the simple refrain: “I’d rather get paid.” Aside from its crazy-catchy melody, the video tackles the issue of power and taking back what we’re owed. Sample lyrics: “I see so many lovely gestures telling women ‘we’re strong,’ but paying us a fair wage is what we’ve wanted all along.” As part of the campaign, Secret teamed up with advocacy group Ladies Get Paid to develop a toolkit that educates women about their rights in the workplace.

Suave Gets Real

“Shampoo commercial hair” is a windswept, idealized hairstyle we can all picture that pretty much none of us can re-create. In a series of commercials, Suave let customers behind the scenes of what it actually takes to get that hair. For the brand’s Hair You Can Believe campaign, Suave spotlighted the over-the-top ways that marketers create “perfect hair,” like hiding styrofoam balls underneath those lustrous waves to create volume or hiring people to stand in green-screen bodysuits to help a model’s hair flow in the studio’s fake wind. “Everyone just wants to see people in haircare ads that they can relate to,” hairstylist and Unilever expert Ursula Stephen told Glamour. “We all want to feel represented and have products available to cater to our specific needs.” The commercial went viral, and women everywhere heaved a sigh of relief and put down their blowdryers.

Calvin Klein Women Went Bare-Faced

With the name “Women,” Calvin Klein’s new fragrance could have gone in a few directions. The clichéd campaign would probably have involved moody music, a woman slowly diving into a pool in an evening gown, and a whole lot of roses. But instead, creative director Raf Simons cast powerhouses Lupita Nyong’o and Saoirse Ronan as the face of “Women” and highlighted their career successes in a series of portraits that sits them among photos of Earth Kitt, Katharine Hepburn, Sissy Spacek, and Nina Simone, the women who inspired them. “Calvin Klein Women is inspired by the transmission of strength and inspiration from one woman to the next; by plurality combined with individuality; freedom of expression; and the notion that the collective is as vital as the individual,” Simons said in a statement. Instead of that cliché pool dive, the campaign videos showcase these two brilliant actors speaking to one another about craft. Not only that, the two were also shot bare-faced. Stunning.

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The Best Face Masks for Dry Skin, Acne, Redness, and More

Of all the beauty products we love (and hoard), face masks rank pretty high up there among our favorites. Name one other skin care item that pairs as well with a glass of wine, bubble bath, or the latest episode of Riverdale. (You can’t. They rule.) That said, you can’t swatch a face mask in Sephora—and the options on shelves have reached an overwhelming amount—so hard to know what’s actually worth your money. To make things easier on your face and your wallet, we’ve rounded up the masks that Glamour editors swear by, based on our biggest skin concerns. Read up on the best face masks for oily, dry, redness, acne-prone, and combination skin, then go forth and reap their rewards.

Women Are Praising Cardi B for Breastfeeding in Her New Music Video

Some people may be starting to slow down as the holidays approach, but not Cardi B. The rapper has certainly had an eventful 2018, and it looks like next year will be just as big. This year along we saw her career continue to soar, complete with five Grammy nominations. She gave birth to an adorable baby, Kulture. But she also split from her husband of one year, Offset, and had that very public feud with Nicki Minaj.

But in true Cardi form, she’s sending 2018 off with a bang today, December 21, by releasing the highly-anticipated video for her hit single, “Money”. While the video has a lot going on—including nudity and dancing on poles—it does show one major nod to her current life as a new mom: breastfeeding. In multiple shots throughout the video, Cardi can be seen breastfeeding while looking as glamorous as ever.

Take a look:

And you can see more in the full video, below:

This is yet another fantastic step toward normalizing the (yes, very normal) practice of breastfeeding. (In similar news, actress Rachel McAdams wore breast pumps in a magazine cover shoot earlier this week.) It’s exciting to see Cardi put a positive message about breastfeeding out into the world, especially in the video for a song that references her career and daughter. Working mom or not, breastfeeding is a natural part of many mothers’ lives.

As with all things Cardi B, social media lit up with praise upon the video’s release. “Cardi B breastfeeding in her music video is so good for the culture (and Kulture),” one user wrote. “Deftly blending high fashion, sex work, and — yes — breastfeeding, Cardi B’s video for “Money” is the logical culmination of three decades of feminism in hip-hop,” wrote another. “Tbh the fact that @iamcardib shows that she can breastfeed and be a bad ass really just set the tone to normalize breastfeeding,” said a user. See more opinions here:

Well done, Cardi—we can’t wait to see what you bring us all in 2019.

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Claire McCaskill and Heidi Heitkamp Open up About Their Careers and How It Felt to Lose in the Year of the Woman

For almost a week after the midterm elections, Senator Claire McCaskill (D-Mo.) built her diet on the unimpeachable foundation of “a lot of pasta and a lot of wine.” In a sense, the meals were a metaphor. Who cared if she was undisciplined now? She had lost.

McCaskill served two terms in the Senate and is now, in her last week, one of its few ardent centrists. She also comes from a state that voted for Donald Trump (with a 19-point margin) in 2016. In the months since the election, McCaskill has chalked up her defeat both to the almost insurmountable numbers (19 points!) and to how the debate over now-Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh several weeks before the midterms galvanized conservative voters. (“That got people lit up,” she told Glamour.) In a recent interview with the New York Times she blamed progressive women, too, whom she feels criticized her for her more moderate approach when in fact what she needed was their help to beat a far more conservative opponent.

But no matter what contributed to her loss, the fact remains that she leaves her office in an unusual moment. For centuries it’s been unremarkable to see a women out of power. So few ever gained it to later lose it. But in 2018, the tides turned.

Whatever the initial sputters about the size or momentum of the blue wave (or was it a rosier shade?) the midterms communicated one absolute truth: The women who’d electrified the resistance didn’t just want to take to the streets; these women wanted seats.

It feels grand, but not quite like an overstatement to declare that a new era will kick off in our nation’s governance next month when this class is sworn in. A record number of women will now serve in the House of Representatives and the Senate. A woman will be Speaker of the House, superlative outerwear in tow. Women make up over 50 percent of the Nevada State Legislature. And nine women won gubernatorial races.

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Heidi Heitkamp (R) and Elizabeth Warren (L) in the United States Senate.

But the wave didn’t just sweep women into positions of influence; it also carried a few out. In the House, Mia Love, a Republican from Utah, and Barbara Comstock, a Republican from Virginia, lost their seats. And in the Senate, it wasn’t just Claire McCaskill; Heidi Heitkamp (D-N.D.) was also defeated.

After decades of service, both leave the capital this week and prepare to return to districts that rejected their leadership. To some extent, the women are now in unchartered waters. So few women have ever won statewide offices and served in the Senate (a grand total of 52) that there’s not much of a model for what happens next.

For Heitkamp, the first order of business is acceptance. Her race had been an uphill climb from the start, given that Donald Trump remains popular in North Dakota and won that state with ease in 2016. But Heitkamp insists she was not at all prepared for to be beat, not because she was delusional about the odds, but because she had made it a point to remain optimistic.

“Don’t anticipate the blow. Don’t anticipate failure. Push all the way through with the idea that this is going to work out.”

She’s worked with countless women in her political career; ambitious, smart women whom she’s seen “gird themselves for defeat” before they’ve even exhausted their opportunities. “‘Well, if it doesn’t work out that’s OK,’ or, ‘I’m not going to let it devastate me if I don’t get this job,’ and I think that’s a mistake,” Heitkamp says. If she has advice to offer anyone in a similar situation, it’s this: “Don’t anticipate the blow. Don’t anticipate failure. Push all the way through with the idea that this is going to work out.”

Heitkamp admits that her tactics can make disappointment “a little harder” to endure, but the work itself is easier when a loss doesn’t feel inevitable. The world is hard enough on women who want to succeed, as Heitkamp puts it, and scores of people in positions of power who want women to doubt themselves. Don’t make it easier on them.

Now of course Heitkamp has all the time she could ever want to dwell and to recover and, much to her amazement, to clean. Immediately following the election, she watched such mindless television she can’t remember even what network it was on. “I was so tired. I had worked so hard,” she says. When she regained some sense of equilibrium, she decided to take out her sorrow on…her closets. “It’s cathartic,” she says. “It’s like, OK, all of this stuff that you’ve collected now and haven’t paid attention to and just stored somewhere—it’s time clean that out. It’s time to get rid of stuff.”

McCaskill, too, has decided to toss whatever she’s collected that she doesn’t need, although in not quite so literally. After she licked her wounds (pasta, wine, repeat), she tried to remind herself that, as she sees it, “it’s impossible to be a victim and a leader at the same time.” She could complain (and some would suggest that she has, at least in her most recent interview with the New York Times‘ The Daily), but she insists she’d rather hunker down and get back to work. She wants to mentor women who want to run for office. Her goal, she says, is to teach them “how to be better fundraisers, how to use a sense of humor, how to see themselves as winners.” And she wants to dispense with the niceties.

“When you’re in public life you always have to live defensively and be careful about how things appear,” McCaskill says. “But now I can kind of go for it. Now I can offend with reckless abandon.” To serve Missouri, she wasn’t in a position to speak out as much as she might have liked against President Trump, for example, and what she now deems his “tortured relationship with the truth.” Now she doesn’t need to hold back—when it comes to Trump or even Democrats whom she thinks haven’t well-served rural white voters. “That was no fun, being disciplined,” she says. “I am going to be so undisciplined now it’s going to be a hoot.”

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Claire McCaskill in November 2018.

Even over the phone, McCaskill sounds light and unburdened. But rejection is rejection. And both she and Heitkamp have had to narrate in public and in real time what that’s like.

Heitkamp has lost elections before. The first was when she was 28 and ran for state auditor. “It was a long-shot campaign,” she remembers. “I did it because I wanted young women to see that we had opportunities to run statewide races. I came really close, and so it didn’t feel like a loss.” Supporters told her she exceeded expectations and had a bright future ahead in politics. It was for Heitkamp a kind of “first introduction” to the people of North Dakota, and it felt good. She lost her bid for governor too, much later. It was 2000 and she was diagnosed with cancer in the middle of the race. When she didn’t win, she didn’t have time to dwell. Her aides had spent the last few months of that campaign watching her hair fall out, watching her get weaker and sicker. Less than 24 hours after the results came in, she had her head shaved. (As now, so too then—it was time to get rid of stuff.) Her children were little, and they didn’t care if their mother was a governor or not.

The point was, she recalls, “OK, you tried this. It didn’t work, but you’ve got kids to.” She wasn’t focused on win or lose. She was focused on live or die.

Heitkamp did survive and the disease gave her perspective on the drama of politics, and this recent loss. But her wince is almost audible as she thinks back to how the results were plastered across the front page of newspapers nationwide. “That level of public exposure—it makes the failure tougher,” she says. Not as a woman, but as a person.

It’s not harder to lose in the Year of the Woman than it was in 2000, they both agree. It’s not much easier, either, but perhaps it’s more peaceable. Heitkamp has watched women stream into Washington over the past few weeks, full of ideas and ambition. When she wanted to run for office, conventional wisdom held that women could either be unmarried and have a career in federal politics or would have to wait until their children were grown up to enter the arena. This election, despite the outcome for her and McCaskill, undid that rule. “What excites me is that when [girls] look at these women who have come up in this election, they can see themselves in 10 years or themselves in five years or themselves now,” Heitkamp says. “The bottom line is that’s exactly the message we need to be sending.”

Heitkamp is 63, and doesn’t plan to disappear from public view. She has more to contribute, and she knows it. But as a citizen and as a woman who was encouraged in her twenties to see a future for herself in politics, she can muster up some excitement for what the capital will look like without her: “I am so excited to see what these women bring.”

There’s no real plan and no more rules and no more staff or schedules. Heitkamp feels sad and a liberated too. Her to-do list is short. “There are issues I know I’m going to continue to have a voice on; it’s just not going to be from inside the United States Senate,” she says. And in the meantime? “Time to binge-watch HGTV, baby.”


Mattie Kahn is a senior editor at Glamour.

5 Ways to Dress Up Your Jeans for Holiday Parties

When it comes to holiday fashion, there are certain…expectations. Sparkles! Shine! Crystals galore! The number of cocktail parties and seasonal get-togethers might be plentiful, but it’s unlikely that head-to-toe sequins might be the sartorial move for most of those events. (I, for one, have dialed it all the way up to go to my mother’s place, only because I had purchased a handful of festive pieces that would have otherwise gone unworn. The rest of the family wore flannel.)

I naturally tend more feminine with my style—and fancy myself a black-tie dress code—but this winter I started thinking about how impractical most holiday attire is. While incredibly fun, a sequined shift dress is pretty much a single-use item (and it’s definitely not a from-desk-to-bar garment); if you’ve ever tried to sit in jewel-bedecked trousers, you’re aware of how uncomfortable those embellishments can be; statement tops, with their larger-than-life shoulders and sleeves, can feel inconvenient. It all just feels like a lot, at least to someone like me who rarely does the most. Meanwhile, your jeans, the perfect offset to anything overly glitzy, are right there, waiting to temper the beaded blazer, crystal earring, or metallic heel you’ve been itching to wear.

Truly, if you’re attending a holiday party that errs on the side of casual, or you simply can’t be bothered with stepping too far outside your denim comfort zone, build a look around your go-to jeans. I gave my favorite pair the ol’ razzle-dazzle treatment without teetering too far into megawatt territory, to show just how versatile they can be. Don’t worry, these spirited outfit ideas are still filled with merry—just without the stress of being the most dressed-up person at the gathering.

Wines Under $30 That’ll Make It Seem Like You Know a Thing or Two

We’ve all been there: You’re tasked with bringing a bottle of wine to a friend’s dinner party—but when you get to the store, you’re overwhelmed with options. So, you just pick whatever has the cutest label in your price point and hope it tastes OK. Like I said, we’ve all been there.

To help with this on-going issue, the Glamour team did the not-at-all fun task of taste-testing various wines—red, white, rosé, and sparkling—to determine which ones we’d actually recommend. (Such hard work!) Oh, and good news: These all fit in the reasonable price point of $30-or-less.

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Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg Undergoes Surgery for Lung Cancer

The Supreme Court issued a statement announcing that Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg underwent surgery today (December 21) for lung cancer in New York City.

Just last month, Ginsburg was briefly hospitalized for broken ribs suffered during a fall. According to the Supreme Court’s statement, the nodules were discovered. “Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg underwent a pulmonary lobectomy today at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York City. Two nodules in the lower lobe of her left lung were discovered incidentally during tests performed at George Washington University Hospital to diagnose and treat rib fractures sustained in a fall on November 7,” it reads.

The good news is that doctors believe that they were able to remove all of the cancer and that it has not spread. “According to the thoracic surgeon, Valerie W. Rusch, MD, FACS, both nodules removed during surgery were found to be malignant on initial pathology evaluation,” the statement continues. “Post-surgery, there was no evidence of any remaining disease. Scans performed before surgery indicated no evidence of disease elsewhere in the body. Currently, no further treatment is planned. Justice Ginsburg is resting comfortably and is expected to remain in the hospital for a few days. Updates will be provided as they become available.”

This is not the first time Ginsburg has battled cancer. In 1999, she had surgery for colorectal cancer and then in 2009 she was treated for the early stages of pancreatic cancer. “I said I will do this job as long as I can do it full steam,” Ginsburg said on Sunday (December 16) at a screening of On the Basis of Sex, the movie based on her early work as a lawyer.

Social media users were quick to send their support and wishes of a speedy recovery to the woman affectionately called the Notorious RBG.

This story will be updated with new information as it is available.

7 Fashion Trends Shoppers Actually Bought Into in 2018—and What They Mean

A quick scroll through a street-style slideshow or an influencer’s Instagram account will give you a sense of what some of the most popular trends of the past year have been: Gucci bags continue to be ubiquitous, leopard print has been used in styling as though it were a neutral color, and athleisure remained a constant no matter the occasion. If you want a definitive list of what pieces have staying power, you can look to retailers, with their knowledge of what industry leaders recognize as popular and, more important, the hard data on what shoppers were actually spending their money on in 2018.

According to several major e-commerce sites—including Net-a-Porter, MatchesFashion, and eBay, among others—the biggest sales drivers of any given year can reflect what consumers value, whether that’s comfort (based on the popularity of practical shoes and polarizing athleisure trends) or a desire to be cutting-edge (judging from how well emerging brands are performing in stores). They can also mirror certain industry-wide trends—like how a demand for faux-fur and vegan-leather products might relate to a shift in designers’ and consumers’ priorities when it comes to what their clothes are made of. (Twenty eighteen was the year cities like San Francisco and Los Angeles would ban fur, after all.)

Ahead, we’re breaking down seven of the biggest retailer takeaways of the year that say as much as what happened in the past as it does about fashion’s future.