People Think Prince William and Kate Middleton Snubbed Meghan Markle in This Photo, but I Call B.S.

Rumors of a “royal feud” between Prince William, Kate Middleton, Meghan Markle, and Prince Harry have been swirling around for months. On some days, it’s the brothers who aren’t getting along. On others, it’s the duchesses. But today’s “feud” story regroups the Fab Four: People on Instagram seem to think Kensington Palace’s latest post is Middleton and Prince William’s way of snubbing Markle.

If that statement alone doesn’t make you roll your eyes, just look at the actual photo that has commenters up in arms. It’s a birthday tribute to Queen Elizabeth II—who turned 93 on April 21—which Kensington Palace captioned, “Wishing a very happy 93rd birthday to Her Majesty The Queen!” In the photo, you see Queen Elizabeth, Prince William, Prince Harry, Middleton, Princess Charlotte, and Prince George all smiling during a Trooping the Colour ceremony. Markle, however is noticeably absent.

It didn’t take long for the comments section to blow up with accusations the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge were dissing Markle by not including her in the pic. “I just noticed Meghan isn’t here,” wrote one person. “Why deliberately leave Meghan out?” commented another. A third person asked, “But where is Meghan? An official photo without her…why?”

And there are even more responses like this in the comments section. Here’s a non-exhaustive list:

  • “Interesting choice of photo. . . .almost like you looking for trouble. Is there not enough rumours and speculation going around. Why add fuel to the fire?”

    “Happy Birthday Your Majesty👑 ps: there is a part of Harry but no MM”

    “oooooh probably sending a message – the present and the future and who really matters. MM isn’t too important”

    “Oh dear, methinks someone is missing from the photo…”

    “Not a good display of brotherly love in excluding Prince Harry’s wife Megan [sic].”

But there’s a perfectly logical, non-shady explanation for why Meghan Markle isn’t in the pic: She physically wasn’t there. Queen Elizabeth wore her iconic, lime-green suit to 2016’s Trooping the Colour ceremony. Markle only attended her first one last year. It’s literally just an old photo. Nothing to see here. Markle was probably running her Suits lines and posting about fun summer cocktails on The Tig as this was happening.

The outrage of this is seriously hilarious. Fans are really out here thinking Kate Middleton opened Photoshop and let out a maniacal laugh as she cut Markle from this pic—which is ridiculous for many reasons. For one, I have a hard time believing Middleton or Prince William post to the Kensington Palace Instagram account themselves. They have way more important things to do, like pick out new spring shorts for Prince George.

Also, check out the full image, below. Prince Charles is actually cropped out, but you don’t see anyone drumming up feud rumors between him and the Cambridges. (Though now I’m imagining what those three could possibly fight about.)

As royals expert Katie Nicholl explained to Glamour a few weeks ago, the idea of there being a melodramatic rift between the Fab Four—specifically Markle and Middleton—is a gross exaggeration.

“I do think there is some truth to there having been some tension—not just between the duchesses but between the dukes, as well,” she said. “As we all know, things can gather momentum pretty quickly. So while I think there’s been tension, I don’t believe there has been some feud.”

Did You Spot This Mistake With Dany’s Braids on Game of Thrones?

Game of Thrones is a meticulously crafted show on every level, from the intricate plot lines to the massive sets and elaborate costumes. (Just read our interview with costume designer Michele Clapton about how she created the season eight looks, and you’ll be impressed.)

That intense attention to detail also applies to the teams creating the hairstyles for the show, which often contain hidden messages about the series. But some eagle-eyed fans spotted what looks to be a mistake with Daenerys Targaryen’s braids in the season eight premiere.

You see, actress Emilia Clarke has worn many wigs over the years while playing the mother of dragons—but it looks like she wore two subtly different ones when she and Jon Snow entered Winterfell with her soldiers. Oops.

“Dany is wearing different wigs during her arrival in Winterfell ☠️☠️😓 #GameOfThrones,” one fan wrote on Twitter. “I rewatched it a thousand times hoping to find an explanation,” another replied.

Let’s take a closer look, shall we? You can see in the first shot that her Dothraki-inspired braids are sitting in a half-up style at the back of her head.

But then, in the next shot, there are more braids that are woven into a larger bun. The different wigs were easy to miss when watching the show. Once you notice the change, though, the mistake becomes quite obvious.

Others on social media couldn’t believe it, either. “Doesn’t everybody pack multiple wigs when meeting your SO’s family?” one joked. “I have a feeling this is going to cause me to spend too much time checking out her wigs for the rest of the season,” another wrote. (Same!)

In all likelihood, this is simply a continuity mistake—but those are not super common on Game of Thrones, which is why this is noteworthy. But this being Thrones, could it hold a more significant meaning? We’ll find out soon enough as the show wraps up its final episodes over the next four weeks.

This ‘Game of Thrones’ Theory Suggests Something Major About the Next Episode

Note: This post does contain spoilers for Game of Thrones. Consider yourself warned.

Of course, I love watching Game of Thrones every week to see what is actually happening in Westeros, but reading the endless theories from super fans in between episodes is almost as much fun.

Last night, on the second episode of the final season, we watched everyone at Winterfell preparing for the looming battle with the Night King and the Army of the Dead. Jaime knighted Brienne, Arya had sex with Gendry, and Jon broke some fairly devastating news to Dany about his true parentage. But it was the preview for next week that got one Redditor theorizing about events to come.

The Thrones crew never gives away much in the trailers, but there is one line in particular that led to this new theory. Daenerys says to Jon, “The dead are already here.” The most simple reading of the line is that it’s in reference to the Night King’s army of white walkers and wights, who are actually dead. But there’s another way to look at it.

“That line happens between Dany and Jon, and felt super significant — but we already see the army of the dead, felt it was too obvious to be their reaction to them. Then it clicked: The crypt is full of dead people,” IgnorantSportsFan wrote on Reddit. “All episode they keep repeating and emphasizing how safe it was in the crypt, but it’s GOT and we cannot have nice things. So is it possible we have old Starks rising from the crypts? Or is that too far fetched? PLUS we saw in multiple previews Arya fighting in the crypts with her new weapon…”

Well, that is interesting indeed. There were a lot of references to the crypts in episode two—it’s meant to be the place where those not fighting the battle will be hidden and safe. But what if it’s not such a safe space after all? Could this be the moment that Catelyn Stark reemerges as Lady Stoneheart? Guess we’ll find out next week.

Why I Didn’t Like Arya’s Sex Scene on Game of Thrones

Yes, she was empowered. Yes, it was one of the most consensual sex scenes in Game of Thrones history. Yes, she’s old enough to have sex. (Maisie Williams, who plays Arya, is 22; the character is 18.) These are all things I know to be true—and still, I did not enjoy Arya Stark’s sex scene last night with her friend and former traveling companion Gendry.

I’m not saying my reaction is correct or even that feminist. Objectively, I believe Arya made a strong, empowered choice with the autonomy she was afforded on her last night before the Battle for Winterfell. Arya needs no protection, nor does she need anyone telling her what to do with her body. And just a quick glance at Twitter tells me that many fans loved the scene:

Williams told Entertainment Weekly she’s happy with the scene, too, though she thought the showrunners were joking when she first read the script. “At first, I thought it was a prank,” Williams says. “I was like, ‘Yo, good one.’ And [the showrunners were] like, ‘No, we haven’t done that this year.’ Oh f—k!”

Two episodes deep in the final season of Game of Thrones, I stand where I always have: very protective of Arya. That doesn’t mean she can’t or shouldn’t ever have sexual experiences—so if that reaction makes me garbage, I get it—but as I watched I thought about how we’ve seen her grow up way too fast in every other way, from seeing her father’s beheading at a young age to fleeing her nest and going scorched earth on her enemies. Truly, the only way that Arya hasn’t been mature beyond her years is in sexual experience.

Her story has always been about revenge and murder, slicing and dicing her foes with the grace and ease of an infomercial chopping device. The writers almost got through the whole series without sexualizing her—something I really thought they would do because of her one-track mind for retribution.

But they just couldn’t help themselves, could they? They couldn’t wrap this show without Arya Stark revealing herself to a man in the nearly textbook way that almost every other woman on this show has done before. (Seriously, the behind-the-naked-female-butt camera angles on this show are like clockwork. Why must the women always get undressed before the men?)

It felt jarring to me that this is the thing Arya wants to do before she dies, when that hasn’t been fully baked into her character until now. And I’m not alone in that opinion:

There’s something else about the scene that didn’t sit right with me. Again, I’m not saying I have the correct opinion—but I want to voice how I feel: The sex scene unintentionally prodded its finger into an old wound of mine. I’ve been pretty vocal on Twitter about my desire, as a queer person, to see more diversity of sexuality on this show. After all, there aren’t many characters on Game of Thrones with a queer experience. Yara Greyjoy is a lesbian character who flirted with Daenerys last season and nearly had a killer sex scene with Ellaria Sand, but she’s never gotten her due romantically. When Yara and Ellaria kissed, men literally burst into the room to kidnap them.

As a character with a less explicit sexual history, Arya was easy for me to relate to. She was a tomboyish kid who parlayed her brawny, raw power into a brute strength—and I loved that about her. Deep down, I knew the show wasn’t going to make her queer—but I was hoping we’d make it through the series without seeing her fall into a heterosexual romance in a way that felt forced to me.

That said, I’m glad Arya got to have sexual experiences before (possibly) dying in the Battle for Winterfell, which takes place next episode. I am, really. I just have a lot of complicated feelings about it. Let me put it this way: I think if Arya had a Twitter, she’d be writing things like, “yeah sex is great but have you ever stabbed a man?”

Taylor Swift Wore the Perfect Spring Dress, and It’s Available at Nordstrom

Taylor Swift has given fans a lot to think about as of late. Over the last several weeks, she’s dropped a series of color-coordinated pictures—including rhinestone hearts, pink tulle, and even paintings of chickens wearing sunglasses—on social media, all in sugary pink and blue hues. It’s all leading up to some sort of reveal on April 26. And, in true Swiftian fashion, this new aesthetic isn’t limited to Instagram: It’s permeating into her wardrobe, too.

On Sunday, Swift posted a video to her Instagram Story in which she’s playing a “Pre Game of Thrones Easter egg battle” with her family. In the short clip, she’s wearing a blush pink, floral-print midi dress with sandals. Her hair appears to be dip-dyed pink, too.

The dress style lines up perfectly with the colorful, upbeat look she’s unveiled online recently (quite a departure from her Reputation era). Oh, and it’s actually shoppable: Swift was wearing Tanya Taylor’s “New Blaire” style, which is available for purchase at Nordstrom.

The $545 floral dress features a wrap belt that can be tied to the front or back (Swift wore hers to the front). It’s available in sizes 0 to 18W at Nordstrom. (If your size is sold out, you can try looking for it on the designer’s website, where you can find it in up to a 22.)

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Swift wasn’t the only celebrity who picked out Tanya Taylor’s New Blaire dress for Easter Sunday festivities: Jennifer Garner was photographed wearing the same style, but in the guava colorway.

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Fertility Week: Everything Women Need to Know About Their Current and Future Fertility

The major exception to the rule: smoking. A cigarette habit will do a number on just about every major health system—your heart, your lungs, even your skin—including your reproductive system. Smoking kicks egg loss into overdrive—women who smoke enter menopause an average of one to four years earlier than non-smokers. (The verdict on vaping is still out: “The problem with vaping is that everyone thinks it’s not as bad as cigarettes but we don’t really know what it does yet,” says Dr. Knopman.)

Weight can also impact your chances of having a baby (that goes for male partners too). “Obesity in women increases the rate of miscarriage, and is associated with worse outcomes for fertility treatments,” Dr. Brady says.

Success rates with IVF—often hailed as a magic bullet—hover around 5 percent for women in their early 40s. “People are really shocked to hear that,” Dr. Brady says.

Really shocked. Fertility doctors see women every day who’ve been led to believe that egg-freezing and IVF are insurance policies with limited risks and hopeful guarantees.

IVF is revolutionary science that has allowed over 8 million births to women who otherwise wouldn’t have been able to get pregnant, since the procedure was first pioneered in the 1980s. But “most of the success of IVF is based on the age of the female,” Dr. Knopman says. “The younger you are when you make the embryos the better chance those embryos are going to be viable and lead to a viable pregnancy.”

It’s far from a fail-safe promise, but the technology (and the ad campaigns surrounding it) has given an inflated sense of confidence about what fertility treatments can and can’t do. “People come in at 40 and say, ‘Oh I’m going to do IVF,’ and I tell them okay but this may take us a lot of rounds and it may not work,” Dr. Knopman says. In other words, you can’t just throw money at the problem: “It’s not always a slam dunk,” she says.

It also matters where you do your IVF. It’s a technically challenging procedure, part art, part science, and not all IVF clinics are up to the challenge. “Not all labs can do egg retrieval and storage the same way,” Dr. Knopman says. “Lab conditions can alter the embryo.” Before handing over your credit card, your body, or your dreams of future pregnancy, ask the clinic the right questions: How many eggs have you frozen? How many eggs have survived the thaw? How many eggs have made embryos?

Look for a clinic associated with the Society of Assisted Reproductive Technology, which provides oversight and keeps tabs on a clinic’s success rate.

“One of the biggest myths I hear is that the pill hurts your fertility and that long-term pill use is not good,” says Dr. Knopman. That’s not true. Let us repeat: Hormonal birth control—whether you use the pill, the ring, the patch or a hormonal IUD—doesn’t hurt your fertility.

“What birth control won’t protect you from is egg loss,” Dr. Knopman says. “Most of us are born with about one to two million eggs. By the time we get our first period, most of us have about 350,000 eggs—you lose a significant amount before you even menstruate.” Each month, regardless of whether you’re ovulating or not, around a thousand eggs die off, their cells absorbed back into your body. “From the first period to the last period, you’re constantly losing eggs no matter what you do,” says Dr. Knopman.

Maisie Williams Opens Up About That Game of Thrones Sex Scene Between Arya and Gendry

There was a lot going on during last night’s episode of Game of Thrones as everyone at Winterfell was preparing to battle the Night King and his Army of the Dead, but there was one scene in particular that had the Internet talking: that sex scene between Arya Stark and Gendry. The pair took part in some mildly flirtatious banter last week when Arya asked him to create a new weapon for her; this week, they took their relationship to a new level.

Maisie Williams, who plays Arya, told Entertainment Weekly that she first thought the show’s writers were joking when she saw the script. “At first, I thought it was a prank,” she said. “I was like, ‘Yo, good one.’ And [the showrunners were] like, ‘No, we haven’t done that this year.’ Oh f—k!”

It was her best friend and co-star, Sophie Turner who alerted Williams to the scene’s existence. “I called Maisie and was like: ‘Have you read it yet?’” Turner tells EW. “And she’s like, ‘I’m midway through episode one.’ And I’m like: This scene, this page, read it! This is awesome! She was very happy.”

Williams confirmed this, recalling, “Sophie said, ‘Whatever you do, you have to skip to this episode, this scene first.’ So I just read that and it was practically all I knew about the entire season … I got to the read-through and I’m reading the scene and thought, ‘Oh, we’re actually going to do this. When do I shoot this? I need to go to the gym.’ A whole list of things.”

Naturally, people on Twitter had strong—and mixed—reactions to seeing this side of Arya Stark.

Williams, now 22, was just 12 when she started Game of Thrones, so the cast and crew approached the filming of the scene with sensitivity. “David and Dan [the showrunners] were like: ‘You can show as much or as little as you want,’” Williams said. “So I kept myself pretty private. I don’t think it’s important for Arya to flash. This beat isn’t really about that. And everybody else has already done it on the show, so… In the beginning, everyone was really respectful. No one wants to make you feel uncomfortable which kind of makes you feel more uncomfortable, because no one wants to look at anything that they shouldn’t look at, which in turn makes you feel like you look awful because everyone is kind of like—“ [Williams averts her eyes]. “You want people to act more normal.”

“It’s obviously slightly strange for me because I’ve known Maisie since she was 11, 12 years old,” Joe Dempsie, the actor who plays Gendry said. “At the same time, I don’t want to be patronizing toward Maisie…so we just had a lot of fun with it.”

But the scene was more than just sex, as far as Williams is concerned. “It was really interesting because it’s a very human relationship for Arya,” she told EW. “This is something she’s stayed away from, an emotion we’ve never really seen her engage with. David and Dan were like, ‘It’s the end of the world, what else would you have her do?’ This may be is a moment where Arya accepts death tomorrow, which she never does — ‘Not Today.’ So it was that moment where she says, ‘We’re probably going to die tomorrow, I want to know what this feels like before that happens.’ It’s interesting to see Arya be a bit more human, speak more normally about things people are scared of.”

Why Isn’t Male Fertility Testing Talked About More?

The fertility conversation feels distinctly female. Case in point: women are now being invited to egg freezing parties—social events built entirely around talking about female fertility—to learn how to preserve, and pay for, their fertility future. Try to picture that same scene among men: A group of dudes gathered together over beers in earnest conversation asking, Have you thought about freezing your sperm, bro?

Men are quite literally half of what it takes to have a baby. A third of all cases of infertility in hetero couples is attributed to male issues, the exact same number of cases attributed to female factor causes (the rest are either a combination of male and female factors or considered indeterminable). Fertility is a team sport, in other words, but the burden of learning about fertility, planning to have a baby (or not have a baby), and dealing with the emotional challenges of infertility often falls disproportionately on women. “One in 10 men in America are infertile,” says Tom Smith, CEO and founder of Dadi, a male fertility startup that analyzes and freezes sperm. “Yet all the onus and pressure is placed on the woman.”

It’s the kind of BS double standard that reeks of the same sexism behind the lack of male birth control—it also doesn’t jive with medical standards. “Any time you evaluate only one member of a couple, you only get half the story,” says Michael Eisenberg, M.D., associate professor of urology at the Stanford University Medical Center and medical director at Dadi. It’s becoming increasingly critical that we don’t overlook men: A 2017 study found that sperm concentration in men in Europe, North America and Australia has dropped by more than 50 percent in the last 40 years—a decline that shows no signs of leveling off—sparking headlines questioning a “reproductive apocalypse” for men.

So, why aren’t more men talking about fertility?

“Men don’t think about it, because our entire lives we’ve been told that men can fertilize an egg well into their 90s,” says Smith. Technically, this is true—the oldest man believed to have fathered a child was 96—but it’s the exception, not the rule.

“I think it’s easy to see how the conversation and the ‘blame,’ should we say, has been placed on women: We do have a finite number of eggs. We lose them as we age and we don’t make new ones,” says Nataki Douglas, M.D., director of translational research for the department of obstetrics, gynecology, and women’s health at Rutgers University and chair of the medical advisory board at women’s fertility startup Modern Fertility (Glamour’s partner in a survey of just how much women know about their fertility). Men, however, don’t deal with the same biological clock; they continue to make new sperm well into adulthood, though the quality steadily declines, upping the risk for genetic mutations, pre-term births, and more complicated pregnancies. In other words, “the sperm of a 90-year old is going to be different than the sperm of a 30-year old,” says Dr. Eisenberg.

When Smith turned 30, he went to the doctor to see what he could be doing proactively to preserve his health. “I asked for every single test under the sun to be done but the thing that was never broached at all was the topic of fertility,” he says. Given his interest in the topic, he brought it up. “The reaction was that it’s not something that’s typically done,” he says. “It’s not that there isn’t a need—it’s just not typically done.”

Freezing Eggs Wasn’t Cheap—I Regret Every Penny

I did not wake up one morning and decide to freeze my eggs. The process was more of a slow burn. Each year, I read yet another haunting article about a woman who had waited too long to have a baby, her childlessness the punishment for hitting the reproductive pause button. Each year, that spectral warning became more vivid, freezing eggs more enticing—I figured eventually my luck would run out, but I wasn’t quite ready to pull the trigger.

And then, I woke up one morning and I was 34. Ask a doctor what he thinks about children after 35 and he’ll give you a look that says: Better get to it. Finding myself on the precipice of “advanced maternal age,” and single and with dim romantic prospects, I decided it was time to preserve my fertility.

When you research egg-freezing options in a major metropolitan hub like New York, you encounter a series of numbers—the financial commitment required for a person to “guarantee” her future fertility. The best programs offer egg freezing for $15,000 to $20,000. It is humiliating to concede that you may never meet the right person, that your chance at motherhood has possibly expired. It is doubly humiliating to concede this truth while asking your family for a large sum of money to remedy the problem. If freezing your eggs is an act of female empowerment (and I’m on the fence about that), asking mom and dad for money is decidedly not.

Once you fork over your many thousands—the amount, which my family did eventually agree to reimburse, was so large that my credit card company immediately flagged the charge as fraudulent—you can begin the month-long procedure of grooming your body to produce a fresh crop of eggs. I am not afraid of needles, I told myself twice a day as injected myself—sometimes on my thigh, sometimes in my stomach—with hormones chilled in refrigerated bottles.

Every morning of that icy February, I took the train from Brooklyn to Manhattan just in time for sunrise, where whatever phlebotomist on duty would draw my blood to chart my hormone levels. Every other day for a month, I had a trans-vaginal ultrasound, to monitor my growing egg harvest. I was told to stop exercising while I underwent all of the hormonal treatments, since my ovaries, laden with eggs, were now too heavy for strenuous activity. Imagine a water balloon, filled to capacity, and then twisted until it can no longer hold its own contents. If that happens with your ovaries—and it can, a condition called ovarian torsion—expect a trip to the emergency room, followed by the surgical removal of the offending organ. Oh, the irony: In the quest to preserve fertility, one can lose it forever.

You are told the risks, of course—and you are also told the realities, which is that the success rate for conception with 10 frozen eggs for women under 35 is 60 percent. Climb past that threshold and the odds drop to 30 percent. But then you’re in the clinic, and the nurses remove the shiny needles from their sheaths, and you feel like you have new weapons against the passage of time. You start to believe what all the messaging tells you: that egg freezing is as an easy, obvious choice for women looking to prolong the ticking of their biological clocks.

It isn’t easy. Aside from the financial toll—which even with financing options is still weighty—egg freezing levees a physical tax. Before my retrieval surgery, my stomach became distended. With the pressure of my swollen reproductive organs pressing against the rest of my body, I felt like I had eaten Thanksgiving dinner five nights in a row. In a single week, I gained 13 pounds (the majority of which I still haven’t fully shed).

All of Your Emergency-Contraception Q’s, Answered

“Oops you did it again, got lost in my bag, oh birth control pills.” If you’ve been singing that tune lately—or the condom broke, or your vaginal ring fell out, or you’re on antibiotics that mess with the effectiveness of your pills—you may be considering emergency contraception.

Commonly referred to as the morning-after pill, there are actually two types of emergency-contraception pills that delay or inhibit ovulation: the progestin-only morning-after pill, and ulipristal acetate tablets (a mouthful, we know). Your other option is a copper IUD, which prevents sperm from reaching the egg. If you’re already pregnant, none of these methods will affect the pregnancy or trigger an abortion. (The pills aren’t abortion pills.)

To save you a bunch of panicked Googling, here’s what you need to know about EC and how to get it no matter which state you live in.

What’s my timeline?

The morning-after pill works best when you take it within three days of having unprotected sex. The sooner you take it, the better it works. Ulipristal acetate tablets are effective for up to five days afterward. (Worth noting: There’s evidence that morning-after pills have a higher failure rate in women over 175 pounds. But doctors say there’s not enough to suggest you shouldn’t still take it.) And you can get an IUD no more than five days after you’ve had unprotected sex.

Do I need a prescription?

Regardless of how old you are, you don’t need a prescription for the progestin-only morning-after pill, but you do need one for ulipristal acetate. A doctor or nurse will need to insert the IUD.

Does insurance cover EC?

Under the Affordable Care Act, most private health plans must cover all birth control, including EC, as prescribed. And you shouldn’t have a copay, even if you haven’t met your deductible. If you have Medicaid, most states cover at least one form of EC. If you work for a religious employer, you may have to pay out of pocket.

OK, but what if I buy it over-the-counter?

In most states, if you buy the morning-after pill over the counter, you’ll have to pay the retail price, which is between $35 and $60. That doesn’t necessarily mean you need to go to the doctor for free EC, though: In 10 states (Alaska, California, Hawaii, Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Mexico, Vermont and Washington State), pharmacists can prescribe progestin-based pills.

Can the pharmacist refuse to give it to me?

Yes, in a few states (Arizona, Arkansas, Idaho, Georgia, Mississippi and South Dakota). In some of those states, the pharmacist must refer you to another staff member who can help you, or tell you where else you can purchase EC. If he or she refuses to cooperate, ask to speak to someone else. You may need to find another pharmacy or try calling your doctor.

Where exactly can I find it?

You’ll need a doctor or nurse to insert the IUD. You can buy the morning-after pill at pharmacies, in the family-planning aisle of major retailers (think Target and Walmart), online, and at Planned Parenthood. The same goes for ulipristal acetate, but before you can buy it online, you’ll need to go through a free online medical consultation in order to get a prescription.

Can I stock up in advance?

Yes. Though EC pills do have a shelf life, it’s usually years long. If you’re buying them for future use, check the expiration date, and make a note of it on your calendar so you can restock before then if necessary.

Can someone else buy it for me?

There’s no law that says the person purchasing EC over the counter has to be the person who plans on taking it. Anyone can buy it, regardless of their gender or age. Though prescriptions for EC can be issued only to the patient, someone else should be able to pick up the prescription for you.