This Bride Went Off on Her Bridesmaid for Getting a Pixie Cut Before Her Big Day

We get it, it’s your wedding day. You’ve planned it, you’ve paid for it, and almost everything should be to your liking (operative word almost). One thing you might not have control over is what your bridesmaids decide to do to their appearance before your wedding—like getting a haircut. And one bride just learned that wedding truth the hard way.

A soon-to-be bridesmaid asked Reddit’s Am I the A**hole thread if she was in the wrong for cutting her long hair before her sister-in-law’s wedding. “I’ve been growing my hair for years and got tired of it. Yesterday, I went from hair down past my butt and had it cut into a short cut, like a pixie,” the original poster wrote.

She even went on to share the sweet reason why she decided to cut it all off. “I cut so much of it because I donated to an organization called Wigs for Kids; they make wigs for free for children with cancer and alopecia,” she explained. “Overall, I donated 48 inches of hair. I absolutely love it, the hair stylist said it was perfect for my face shape, my fiancé loves it, it’s been such a confidence booster.”

Earlier in the post, the bridesmaid explained that her sister-in-law is getting married in June and that she is planning a big wedding. She admitted that the bride has been very kind, but rightfully picky—until this point.

“I posted a picture on Instagram today along with a picture of the bundles of hair I sent off to donate,” she wrote. “I later get a text from her saying I should have asked before I cut all that hair off as she doesn’t think it’ll match her extremely feminine designs/decorations, I’m in her wedding party and now will stand out from her and the other girls (they all have long hair too), and wishes I had waited just a month to cut it.”

The bridesmaid, who was well within her right to cut her own hair, was truly stuck on how to respond. She explained in her now-viral post it was the first wedding she would be in and didn’t know if this sort of thing was normal. “Should I have asked her before making such a dramatic physical appearance change?” she posed to the group.

“It’s your hair and you did an amazing thing with it, don’t be made to feel bad for it,” one commenter responded.

Another sent a PSA to brides everywhere about what really matters when it comes to picking your bridesmaids: “I don’t understand the bridezilla impulse to try to control your wedding party’s appearance, but you should be asking people to be in the wedding party because they’re important to you, not because they’re aesthetically pleasing.” Preach.

While most of the 300-plus comments agreed that the bridesmaid was not in the wrong, a few sympathized with where the bride was coming from. “I don’t think you did anything wrong, and it’s your body, your choice, but I can understand her feelings too,” someone wrote. “As you said it’s a big wedding, and she is under pressure and probably have a lot of expectations. I totally understand that it’s a pretty ridiculous thing to be pissed off by, but if she had a really precise view of what she wanted, she might feel betrayed, especially if her wedding is next month.”

Ultimately the bride and bridesmaid worked it out. The bridesmaid made an update to her original post with the good news.

Beyoncé Talks About Her Pregnancy Struggles in “Homecoming” Documentary

Beyoncé lit a match to the Internet today when she dropped both a surprise live album and her long-awaited documentary Homecoming on Netflix. The film chronicles Queen Bey’s historic Coachella performance last year, and it also tackles some of the more intimate issues in her life—in particular, how she struggled with serious pregnancy complications before and after giving birth to her twins, Rumi and Sir.

In the film, Beyoncé reminds us that she had been slated to perform at Coachella in 2017. However, after she got unexpectedly pregnant, she pulled out of the festival, citing “pregnancy concerns.” She went into detail about what those issues were, explaining that she was balancing a series of scary conditions, such as preeclampsia, which is marked by high blood pressure in pregnant women and can lead to more severe liver or renal failures. Bey had addressed getting preeclampsia when she graced the cover of last year’s September issue of Vogue, but Homecoming sheds light on exactly how the difficulties affected her career as a performer.

“My body went through more than I knew it could,” she said in the film. “I was 218 pounds the day I gave birth. I had an extremely difficult pregnancy. I had high blood pressure. I developed toxemia, preeclampsia, and in the womb, one of my babies’ heart beats paused a few times, so I needed to get an emergency C-section.”

The babies were born, healthy and happy, but Beyoncé explained that the road to recovery was long and arduous. “There were days where I thought I’d never be the same,” she says, speaking to a post-pregnancy experience many women feel. “I’d never be the same physically. My strength and endurance would never be the same.”

Still, she worked through the moment and gave herself to time to rebuild. She describes adopting a rigid vegan diet and working to get her stamina up so she could give the world the groundbreaking Beychella: “I learned a valuable lesson: I will never, never push myself that far again,” she said. “I feel like I’m a new woman in a new chapter of my life and I’m not even trying to be who I was.”

Spoken like the hero she is. The film is streaming on Netflix now.

Bridal Shoes: Where to Buy Wedding Heels and Flats

When you’re picking out a wedding dress, you might be willing to sacrifice practicality in favor of, say, oversized puff sleeves or a thigh-high slit. Because you’re (hopefully) only going to wear it once, there’s more incentive to go all out. But your shoes? Those have more longevity. You could theoretically continue to wear them long after the big day, so long as they’re not overly white, blue, and sparkly. Luckily, there’s a new trend brewing the bridal industry, one that actually has nothing to do with dresses: Designers are releasing shoe collections meant to go with whatever you’re planning to wear on your wedding day, but that can also be incorporated into your everyday wardrobe.

You can walk down the aisle in sophisticated and modern heels, flats, and even sneakers from brands like Loeffler Randall, Margaux, and Keds, which have all recently started selling footwear specifically designed with brides in mind, but with the intention of having them live in your closet forever. Ahead, we round up the best places to buy wedding shoes online.

Signs of Skin Cancer: This Skin Check Can Save Your Life

Wearing sunscreen is one of the most important things you can include in your beauty routine (and one of the easiest ways to protect your health) but still, skin cancer rates are on the rise. “The earlier you can catch skin cancer, the easier it is to cure,” says Casey Gallagher, M.D., a dermatologist in Boulder, Colorado. No matter how much SPF you use, it’s important to keep an eye on any out-of-the ordinary skin spots.

Melanoma is the second most common cancer in women ages 15 to 29, and more than a million Americans are living with it right now, according to Jody Levine, M.D., director of dermatology at Plastic Surgery & Dermatology of NYC, citing the American Academy of Dermatology. “About half of melanomas found are self-detected,” she says. That means give yourself a good once-over, and compare any moles you have to the ones in these images.

As you look at the pictures below, Dr. Levine says to keep the ABCDEs of melanoma in mind (Asymmetry, when one half doesn’t match the other; Border irregularity, when the edges are jagged; Color that varies; Diameter that’s larger than a pencil eraser; or a mole that is Evolving—changing shape, size, or color over time). And if something fits the bill, get to your derm ASAP for a check.

The Internet Has a Really Good Theory About Meghan Markle’s Exact Due Date

The royal baby’s arrival may be closer than we think. Prince Charles and Duchess Camilla just dropped a major hint about Meghan Markle’s due date, and it’s so soon.

Clarence House announced on Monday, April 15, that Prince Charles and Duchess Camilla will be embarking on a trip to Germany from May 7 to May 10—a date that’s just three weeks away.

As People pointed out, however, Prince Charles—who walked Markle down the aisle at her wedding to Prince Harry in May—and Camilla are unlikely to miss the birth of their newest grandchild.

If that’s the case, it’s safe to assume the Duchess of Sussex will be giving birth ahead of their departure next month.

The timeline also matches up with reports that Markle previously told a woman at an appearance her son or daughter would be born in April. “For those who want to know about these things: Meghan told one lady in the crowd that she is six months pregnant and another woman that her due date is around April 👶,” ITV News royal editor Chris Ship tweeted on January 14.

If this isn’t enough proof, there’s also another hint courtesy of Markle’s longtime friend and wedding makeup artist, Daniel Martin.

The Daily Mail reports Martin recently revealed he’ll be making his way back to the states by May 5. (He’s currently in England and was the first guest at the couple’s new Windsor home.)

“I’m very excited to share that I’ll be making my first ever main stage appearance @themakeupshow on Sunday, May 5th from 10am-11:30am,” Martin posted to Instagram on Saturday, April 12.

Because Martin and Markle are so close, he probably won’t miss her birth, either, which puts Baby Sussex’s arrival before May 5.

Unfortunately, it may be a while before we get to see the newest royal addition. Kensington Palace announced last week that Markle and Prince Harry have made “a personal decision to keep the plans around the arrival of their baby private,” adding, “The Duke and Duchess look forward to sharing the exciting news with everyone once they have had an opportunity to celebrate privately as a new family.”

Either way, we’re counting down the days.

The *Time* 100 List Includes Both Christine Blasey Ford and Brett Kavanaugh—and People Have Thoughts

Last fall, the nation sat riveted while Dr. Christine Blasey Ford and now Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee. Blasey Ford, of course, has come forward with allegations of sexual assault against Kavanaugh, which he categorically (and often angrily) denied. The stark contrast between them ignited debate and protests nationwide.

Now the conversation has been reignited thanks to the annual Time list of the 100 Most Influential People, which features both Blasey Ford and Kavanaugh. The inclusion of Blasey Ford spoke to her immense impact on Americans, and women in particular. “Her story, spoken while holding back tears, shook Washington and the country,” writes Senator and 2020 presidential candidate Kamala Harris in a blurb for Blasey Ford. “Her courage, in the face of those who wished to silence her, galvanized Americans. And her unfathomable sacrifice, out of a sense of civic duty, shined a spotlight on the way we treat survivors of sexual violence…At her core, she is a teacher. And through her courage, she forced the country to reckon with an issue that has too often been ignored and kept in the dark.”

Meanwhile, Senator Mitch McConnell writes about Kavanaugh for the magazine. “[W]hen unhinged partisanship and special interests sought to distract the Senate from considering those qualifications, we saw other facets of Justice Kavanaugh’s character shine forth as well,” McConnell insists. “The country saw his resilience and commitment to public service. We saw his loyal devotion to family and friends. We saw his undeterred reverence for the law, for precedents and for our nation’s highest traditions.”

Let’s not mince words here, this is infuriating to me—and to many others. Brett Kavanaugh is the embodiment of rich, white, male privilege. It’s hard to believe that the magazine would choose to (rightly) honor Blasey Ford’s enormous influence while it at the same time lauds her alleged assailant. Writer Jessica Valenti summed it up on Twitter, writing, “TIME magazine profiling Christine Blasey Ford alongside the man who sexually assaulted her is peak ‘both sides’ and I’m so tired. Here’s this incredible brave woman…and the man who tried to rape her!”

And Valenti wasn’t the only one to pick up on it. On social media, women once again rallied around Blasey Ford.

Dr. Christine Blasey Ford still receives threats and had to move out of her home because she was brave enough to speak her truth and share her pain, in the hopes that justice would be served. Brett Kavanaugh has a permanent and comfortable seat on the Supreme Court. Yes, he is and will be an important person, whose power will in all likelihood terrible ramifications for women. But thanks to Senate Republicans and his lifetime appointment to the bench, Time will have decades to recognize that influence. It didn’t have to be now. It didn’t have to be in 2019. His inclusion beside her on the Time list is inexcusable.

The response to Blasey Ford’s testimony proved just how much contempt men in power have for women’s voices. Time didn’t need to emphasize the point.

Pete Buttigieg and Beto O’Rourke Lost High-Profile Elections But Get More Media Attention Than Women Who’ve Won

“Wow, I like this Mayor Pete fellow!” I caught myself thinking last week. I knew almost nothing about him, other than the fact that Pete Buttigieg is an openly gay veteran, publicly shames Vice President Mike Pence for his homophobia, and sounds like a super-chill, empathetic genius in all these interviews that have clogged my Twitter feed of late. Until this weekend, he hadn’t even formally entered the presidential race. After two weeks of nonstop Mayor Pete coverage, I couldn’t help it. The notion came, unbidden: “I bet this Pete Boody-something-Guy is the one who can beat Trump!”

For a hot second, when now-former Representative Beto O’Rourke first entered the race, I had the same thought about him. He’s a cool skater dude from a Republican-held state where he almost won against that Munster-looking man who ate that gross white thing on his lip. But you know what I keep forgetting about him and all the white men the media keeps getting bromance boners over?

They’re losers.

Yes, these frontrunners, who just so happen to be white and male, are losers. Mayor Pete Buttigieg lost the 2017 election for DNC Chair and the race for Indiana State Treasurer in 2010, Senator Bernie Sanders lost the 2016 Democratic presidential primary to Hillary Clinton, and O’Rourke lost the 2018 Texas Senate race to Senator Ted Cruz…which, oddly enough, also happens to be the election that made him famous. Of course a white man would be catapulted to fame after losing a super important race and then think, “I know! I’ll run for president now!” (He was born for this.) Perhaps the best known loser of all, who likes to unapologetically rub noses with women and hug them like his teddy bear and then joke about it when people ask him to knock it off, is former Vice President Joe Biden. This is the man who lost both the 1988 and 2008 presidential primaries.

But I haven’t even gotten to the worst part yet: These men? The losers? Recent polls show them ranked above qualified female candidates, all of whom won their elections, sometimes by historic margins.

Did you not know? You wouldn’t, based on how the media has covered them. As much as we’d like to think that we learned from 2016 and this time sexism won’t be as prevalent, it absolutely is. According to recent polls, men still question whether women are emotionally fit to be president. And women get far more bad press than their male peers, per a recent analysis from Northeastern University’s School of Journalism. As Li Zhou writes for Vox, the very idea of “electability” is now becoming a code word for male and white.

But the sexism isn’t just overt in how the press talks about these women. It’s implicit in their general disinterest in them as candidates. On regular basis, the men get more coverage than women. Even in the immediate aftermath of their presidential bid announcements, FiveThirtyEight reports that female candidates (and some of the non-white men in the race) received less press than the white male candidates, despite the fact Senator Kamala Harris, for example, attracted a huge turnout for her kickoff event, has gone viral for her fearless interrogations in the fall, and is running an historic campaign—our first black female candidate since Shirley Chisholm! Of course, if elected, Buttigieg would become the first openly gay (and youngest) president. And that deserves attention. But the prospect of the first woman president should attract just as much. So far, it hasn’t.

People Have a Lot of Questions About the Sinks in Kim Kardashian’s House, Including Me

S.O.S, people: I can’t stop thinking about Kim Kardashian and Kanye West‘s bathroom sinks.

What am I talking about, you ask? Well, let me direct your attention to the “73 Questions” video Kim filmed for Vogue magazine last week. The soon-to-be lawyer gave fans a rare look inside her Hidden Hills, Calabasas mansion, which she describes as a “minimal monastery.” That essentially means there’s nothing in her house. The furniture is all white. There’s no art on the walls. Kimye’s home is so bare and eerie that Kenny G looked trapped when he played the sax in their living room a few weeks ago. When it comes to their décor, the Wests are fully embracing the phrase “less is more.”

And this applies to their bathroom sinks, too. I know what you’re thinking: How can you make a bathroom sink “minimal?” It’s just a sink. But Kim and Kanye have done just that by installing sinks in their master bathroom with—wait for it—no basins. One eagle-eyed fan pointed this out on Twitter, and it’s caused a mass frenzy.

“Can someone PLEASE explain the sinks at kim & kanye’s house,” the user wrote. Take one look at the sinks, below, and you’ll be just as perplexed.

These sinks have taken over my life and possibly damaged my pupils. I’ve been staring at them for so long that I’m now seeing spots. Kris Jenner’s face is beginning to form in the marble. This is making me question everything: science, physics, my life, my choices. Where the hell does the water go? Wouldn’t it spill all over those bare, eerie floors? Do Kim and Kanye have some kind of magic water that nourishes without making a mess? That seems like something rich people would invest in.

Here are just a handful of people who are feeling personally victimized by these sinks:

Obviously, I couldn’t let this story go without figuring out how Kim’s possessed sinks work—and it turns out the explanation isn’t that exciting. If you look closely at the photo, you’ll see the countertop isn’t flat: It’s concaved, which allows the water to trickle down to a tiny hole located 10 inches from the faucet.

There you have it, folks. The case of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West’s mystery sinks is solved. If only the answer were more exciting, like Kris cast a spell on the countertops or something. You know she has the power to do that.

Nordstrom Spring Sale April 2019: What to Buy

If you have the time, going through dozens, if not hundreds of pages of marked-down merchandise whenever your favorite store announces a sale can be very fun. But in the age of flash deals and end-of-season clear-outs, it can be hard to keep up—which means you might be missing out on some major savings. Sure, you know to plan around Black Friday and Cyber Monday. But what about for when Nordstrom announces it’s having a spring sale where tons of great product is up to 50 percent off? That’s where we come in. We did a first pass of all the dresses, jumpsuits, sandals, and other warm-weather essentials that are deeply discounted at the retailer right now, so you can go straight for the good stuff. Ahead, shop the 22 best pieces on sale at Nordstrom right now. Get ’em in your cart before the deal ends on April 22.

Best High Waisted Jeans For Women 2019

There are two kinds of jeans that get people really riled up: low-rise jeans and high-waisted jeans. There are plenty of other styles to choose from, but these are the real conversation-starters—the ones that everyone has an opinion on (in the case of the low-rise and its potential comeback), and everyone definitely has a preference.

Over the past few years, shoppers have rediscovered high-waisted denim, which have shed their “mom” and “dad” reputation and have been embraced for their comfort and versatility. Like low-rise jeans, they’re nostalgic; but unlike them, they feel timeless, worn by everyone from Fran Lebowitz to Gigi Hadid. And just like with any good tired and true wardrobe staple, everyone swears by one brand that makes the best. Even a quick poll around the Glamour office revealed the sheer variety of options available on the market. Ahead, we’ve rounded up their recommendations for the absolute best high-waisted jeans.