Just when we thought J.Lo couldn’t get more perfect, Hustlers came out. The only thing better than Ramona’s pole dancing skills are the outfits she wears, all of which are incredibly over the top and undoubtedly iconic. And while we’re always looking for ways to dress or look like J.Lo (if someone can bottle her eternal youth and sell it, let us know ASAP), her looks in Hustlers aren’t exactly something we can wear out in our day to day. That is, except for one very specific pair of high waisted leggings that are currently on sale.
The pair of leggings we’re talking about are the Koral Lustrous High Rise Leggings and they’re 25% off at Bandier during its Friends and Family Sale, which makes them $66. J.Lo’s been spotted wearing these exact leggings, both on set and off, a couple of times since March and we don’t blame her.
Not only are the leggings J.Lo-approved, but they’re also one of Bandier’s best sellers. They’re made specifically to hug your hips and waist, which means they instantly dress up your look, whether you’re in a pair of sneakers and a hoodie (like in the now-iconic Hustlers scene) or going to that bootcamp workout class you’re signed up for. Like J.Lo, these leggings have the range.
My sister warned me long ago that weddings stop being fun in your 30’s if you’re a single woman. I didn’t think this would apply to me, as I’ve never fantasized about wedding dresses or being a princess bride. In fact, I never thought I’d get married at all. And yet, no matter how happy I am in my life with my career, friends, and endless adventures, I still find myself crying unnecessarily in bathroom stalls at weddings or getting overly defensive when yet another relative or “concerned” friend asks me why I’m not married yet.
Why am I the only person okay with me being single? Probably because getting married is what women are supposed to do—I’m either willfully breaking these all-important rules society has forced onto us or (gasp!) nobody actually wants me. I know the latter is bullshit, though it feels true at weddings for some reason. The truth is, I could easily get married if I really wanted just any shmuck. But I am instead—buckle up—choosing to stay single because it turns out a woman can be happy without a man. Revolutionary idea, right?
The fact is, I’m actually quite open to having a partner and even like being in a relationship, so long as it’s a good one. But even then, people love to pester me about wedding bells as if the trajectories of my relationships are any of their damn business. As we’re finally starting to acknowledge, hetrosexual marriages are often a bad deal for women. That’s not to say getting married can’t be a wonderful thing—but only when it’s to a partner who shows you love, respect, and willingness to share trash duty. In my experience, there are a million reasons to stay single and only one not to: You find a partner who is an equal, not a needy man-baby.
So, if you’re single like me, it’s probably not because you’re a loser but because you know that there are plenty of ways to be happy and fulfilled without a wedding. To shut the judgmental if unintentional haters up, here are some good comebacks when they ask, “So, when are you getting married?”
Maleficent: Mistress of Evil, Disney’s sequel to the 2014 retelling of Sleeping Beauty with Angelina Jolie that’s in theaters now, is sort of strange and dark for a fairy tale. And naturally, that’s what makes it so great. The movie covers a lot of things—motherhood, the loss of innocence, love, hate, immigration, power, magic—without losing focus. The costumes are, and I cannot stress this enough, excellent. And best of all, it honors the most enduring tropes of Disney fairy tales (spoiler: good triumphs over evil) while updating the princess narrative in subtle and powerful ways.
Just look at Aurora’s (Elle Fanning) story. She’s now 21 years old and engaged to Prince Philip. It’s hardly surprising or revolutionary that she’s marrying her first boyfriend, but we then learn they’ve been dating for five years. Five years! Compare that to the “love at first sight, married the next day” plot of, well, just pick a movie. Aurora is no sleepy princess, either. She’s the strong-willed barefoot queen of the Moors, the forest wonderland where magical creatures live, having given her previous castle to “the people.” We stan an egalitarian monarch.
Of course, this will come as no surprise to those who saw the first film, a decidedly feminist reboot of Sleeping Beauty. But Linda Woolverton—the screenwriter behind both Maleficent films and basically your entire childhood (Beauty and the Beast and The Lion King, hello!)—tells me that turning a tale of problematic true love on its head was a challenge at first. While writing the first film, she struggled with making the Disney villain sympathetic. “What on Earth happened to this woman that she was that pissed off?” she asked herself. And so, “I had to give her a real reason.”
The answer: She wrote a scene in which Maleficent is drugged by a paramour and wakes to find he’s cut off her wings. “It was…nothing we ever said out loud, but it feels like a date rape,” she tells me. “It’s funny, I worked really closely with Angelina Jolie on the whole script—she was fantastic—and we never actually said date rape. It wasn’t until after that it was like, ‘Oh, huh, that’s what that is.'”
That powerful metaphor in Maleficent’s backstory wasn’t the only twist in the first film, though. You may recall that it’s actually Maleficent herself who breaks the sleeping curse by kissing Aurora on the forehead. (Turns out the unconditional true love of a mother is greater than that of a random paramour’s.) That moment was yet another instance of Woolverton realizing, after the fact, what she had written. “For the first Maleficent, I was talking [in an interview] about the moment when Maleficent wakes Aurora up and gives this speech, and I broke down,” she says. “It was so terrible. I realized that the whole movie was an apology to my daughter for getting a divorce.” She adds, “I didn’t even realize it until that moment that the whole movie was about that.”
Marry Me is slated to hit theaters in 2020. As for when Jennifer Lopez is expected to marry Alex Rodriguez, well, that’s still a mystery. The couple hasn’t set a date yet, but Lopez did open up about their plans briefly in a recent interview with Evening Standard.
“I have a movie I’m shooting in October [Marry Me], and the movie has an album that goes with it, so I’m just a little bit busy right now, and until October, he has the World Series in baseball,” she said. “We’re going to have to pick a day, pick a time and block it out, but we’re definitely talking about it. [Marriage is] important for both of us. We both come from traditional Latin families and we want that. Everyone wants somebody to grow old with. At the end of the day, how much work can you do, how much money can you make, and what does it all matter? It doesn’t, really.”
Perhaps you’ve heard that one in four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. It’s a staggering statistic. Here’s the part you probably don’t know: 99% of those cases will involve some form of financial abuse.
Serena Williams wants to do something about that. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Williams has partnered for the third time with the Allstate Foundation’s Purple Purse initiative to raise awareness around the rampant problem of financial abuse in relationships. “She is the embodiment of women’s empowerment,” Allstate Foundation senior program officer Ellen Lisak says. “We’ve been so grateful she has brought her influential voice and platform to our program to help elevate a national conversation around these issues that are so unknown to so many people.”
“When I signed up three years, I was really shocked by the statistics,” Williams told Glamour. “It’s basically every single case [of domestic violence]. When you think about that way, it’s like how did I not know about it? What can I do to bring my voice to it and talk about it?”
“I hope that people can learn the common signs of financial abuse and that if people are victims they know that there are resources like PurplePurse.com out there to help,” she continues. “I want people to know about the horrors of financial abuse.” Through her partnership with Allstate and Purple Purse, she’s had the opportunity to talk with survivors, something that has been very meaningful to her. “I feel really lucky to be among such powerful women,” she says. “It’s important for me to use my voice to support them and help tell their stories. Together, we can help other women.”
“Victims of domestic violence are often asked, ‘Why don’t you just leave?’ and what we found is that financial abuse is one of the reasons. We found that domestic violence happens to one in four women, regardless of race or socioeconomic status and 99% of those cases also involve financial abuse,” Lisak tells Glamour. “It’s is one of the main reasons that victims remain in or return to an abusive relationship.”
“It can take on many forms, depending on the situation, but some examples include when an abuser prevents a victim from working, or they really limit their access to money or credit cards, or they even intentionally ruin their credit,” she continues. “If you have bad credit you can’t get an apartment. If you’re not working, you’re not bringing in income and you’re kind of stuck in this vicious cycle.”
A faded pair of baby blue jeans gets all the credit (and Instagram love), but a black jeans outfit is just as reliable—and easy to put together. Take any outfit you’d wear with your favorite vintage denim and simply swap out the bottoms. Black jeans look just as sleek with a classic leather jacket as they do with louder trends of the moment, like tie-dye, cowboy boots and neon. This fall, it’s time to think beyond the plain white T-shirt and imagine all the ways you can wear this underrated denim style. Consider these five perfect outfits a start.
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Also this year, Hanukkah will be featured in Lifetime’s Mistletoe & Menorahs (which premieres December 7). It will star Kelley Jakle and Jake Epstein, and the plot goes something like this: “When a determined toy company executive, Christy (Jakle), must learn about Hanukkah in a hurry in order to land a big account, she enlists the help of her co-worker’s friend Jonathan (Epstein), who happens to also be in desperate need of turning his bachelor pad into a Christmas Wonderland to impress his girlfriend’s father. After butting heads, they realize they need each other’s holiday expertise and quickly appreciate one another’s cultures and each other. As they spend more time together, they realize they have more in common and a holiday romance lights up.” Can’t wait.
Then, in a Christmas Love Letter (premiering December 21), relationship advice columnist Amalie (Ashley Newbrough) receives an unsigned love letter and tries to solve the mystery of who sent it. Maybe she’ll find true love in the process? The film also stars Tilky Jones, Chanté Bowser, and Izzy Herbert.
Rounding out the new films is A Date by Christmas Eve on December 22, in which Chelsea, a good-hearted brand strategist for a popular dating app, discovers the app has given her magical powers. (Where’s that when I need it?) She uses her newfound ability to make all the “naughty” people in her life learn how to be good again. Of course, nothing goes as planned; and in a twist reminiscent of The Good Place, a kind neighbor is added to the naughty list, forcing Chelsea to fix things before time runs out. The film stars Vanessa Lengies, Evan Williams, Katherine Bailess, Julie McNiven, and Morgan Fairchild.
In middle school, I begged to go to Space Camp. In that week, I served as both the commander of a mission and participated in a all-female spacewalk simulation with another girl, among other amazing activities. I couldn’t have imagined then that it would take until 2019 for two women to do that same thing in actual outer space.
But at last, it’s all happening. As I write this, NASA astronauts Christina Koch and Jessica Meir are taking part in the first all-female spacewalk outside the International Space Station, where the duo will be replacing a faulty battery charge/discharge unit. (Women have done spacewalks before, but never together.)
You may remember back in March, NASA had to cancel this scheduled event for the most inane reason: The organization didn’t have two spacesuits that were sized to fit women and one of the women, Anne McClain, had to give up her spot to a man. “Anne trained in ‘M’ and ‘L’ and thought she could use a large but decided after [last] Friday’s spacewalk a medium fits better,” a NASA spokeswoman, Stephanie Schierholz, said in a tweet at the time. “In this case, it’s easier (and faster!) to change space-walkers than reconfigure the spacesuit.”
We are not over that, but at least now we can also celebrate these incredible women.
And since each is a person in her own right, NASA has even provided a handy way to identify who is who in the livestream.
“I think it’s important because of the historical nature of what we’re doing and that in the past, women haven’t always been at the table,” Koch said in a news conference ahead of the historic day. “It’s wonderful to be contributing to human spaceflight at a time when all contributions are being accepted, when everyone has a role and that can lead, in turn, to increased chance for success.”
Every element of Looking for Alaska is in service to this unknown tragedy. Each episode provides new insight about Miles, The Colonel, Alaska, and the people around them. We learn about their addictions, their mental health, their family lives—all through an objective, non-judgmental lens that will make people feel seen. You soon get a picture of how these characters might react to a crisis.
“Much of this story is asking really important questions that I think all young people are asking that aren’t necessarily surface things,” Plummer tells Glamour. “I think that’s what was so incredible for me when I first read the book: I was reading a story about young people dealing with the idea of death and not really knowing what the answer to that question is. They’re really asking it and having real conversations and also being faced with it. I think everybody goes through that at one point in their life, where they lose somebody that’s really close to them or go through a really tragic experience.”
Everybody does experience trauma or loss at some point in their lives, but to go through that as a teenager is an entire thing altogether. It’s a strange stage in life when young people are asserting their independence for the first time but still have a ways to go. Looking for Alaska does an excellent job at tapping into what it’s like to process something so adult at such a young age.
“It’s just that point in time where you’re really owning up to the responsibility of, ‘OK, I’m going to be an adult now, and I’m going to have to get through things that are difficult,'” Plummer says. “I think the first time you’re really having to do that on your own, especially as an independent person, is always challenging and scary.”
Adds Forseth, “Don’t judge a book by its cover. We’re all going through our own stuff. And having friends and having that support and ultimately reaching out for help is so important.”
Looking for Alaska is not without its moments of levity, though. Yes, there is a devastating incident at the center of it, but so much of what you’ll watch feels akin to a John Hughes movie. When Miles arrives to the boarding school, he’s looking for new experiences, and he finds them—and so do Alaska and the Colonel. Throughout the show they experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. There are breakups and fights and makeups, all the staples of what makes a compelling teen TV show. At times, the show is even funny—filled quippy lines and cheeky banter. It’s the complete package, really.
For a few years in my early twenties, I was a Jean Expert™. I worked at American Eagle in my hometown mall and was an enthusiastic participant in the store’s mandatory denim training. Around the fall of 2008, the chain embraced the resurrection of skinny jeans, and as a wee baby hipster determined to differentiate herself from anyone still savoring super low-rise bootcut, I saw them as liberation from “the mainstream.” Never mind that they were available everywhere. To me, skinny jeans equated freedom. Which was ironic, because they felt anything but. Until I met Mom Jeans.
The first time I saw super-high-rise jeans—specifically, my best friend’s pair of Cheap Mondays—I was as shocked as I was intrigued. I immediately bought a pair. Unlike their low-rise counterparts, they highlighted the parts of myself I’d come to believe should be strategically covered in billowy tank tops or several polos worn simultaneously, lest my body look imperfect. I’d wear them with plain crew neck t-shirts and scarves or big, baggy sweaters. I wanted to show off how interesting and different I was, both in my penchant for vintage but also in my rejection of the trends of the moment. These jeans let me do that.
Sure, millions of other people were wearing their denim high (and had never actually stopped). But these jeans made me feel special. I was a Denim Expert who rejected regular-old skinnies in favor of Mom Jeans, and that made me unique.
I know now, of course that I absolutely wasn’t. And about a decade after their introduction to the mainstream, Mom Jeans have nestled their way into our hearts and closets, evolving from a derogatory nickname reserved to a bona fide trend. (My old employer even has a whole section dedicated to them.) They now have straighter, roomier legs—thank heavens—that seem concerned with comfort over everything else Which suits me just fine: As a now 34-year-old woman who wants nothing more than to pour herself into a denim sack every morning out of sheer laziness, the embrace of Mom Jeans has helped cultivate the illusion of having style, despite really just wanting to dress like Sabrina Spellman circa 1996.
The thing is, as much as I loved the idea of a high-rise skinny, I was never (and still am not) totally comfortable wearing it. To wiggle into jeans that are super-tight, that require maneuvering, that midday can make you want to abandon them completely for jogging pants or paper bag isn’t exactly a dream. Yes, it felt cool not to worry about showing your underwear off if you so much bent down to tie your shoe, as would happen with a super low-rise, but it’s even cooler to feel like you’re cheating—like your high rise and billowy legs symbolize a dedication to fashion over your allegiance to absolute comfort. And to be honest, I’ve never felt better.